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Resources for Suicidal Teens and Parents

In the last few blogs, we’ve talked about a tough subject, suicide, and suicidal thoughts, with Lori Wildenberg. We first started the conversation with what is suicide and what are suicidal thoughts. Then we shared Lori giving her powerful testimony about how her daughter, who had an unsuccessful suicide attempt and now is thriving and doing great. We have shown risk factors and signs to look for in children. Today we conclude with a few lasting points and resources.

Keys to Overcoming Suicide and Suicidal Thoughts

One of the keys to overcoming suicide and suicidal thoughts is to stay connected and communicate. Many times this can be something we tend to avoid because this is a tough subject to talk about with our kids. We are reluctant to go to a child we love and ask the hard question, “Have you thought about suicide” and not want to hear the answer that they may be depressed or thinking about suicide.

Another key truth is that positivity can be toxic because it feels dismissive. If our kids come to us with genuine concern, and we dismiss it and put a positive spin on it, we’re telling them we don’t want to hear their struggle, to get over it, and that there’s always a silver lining. What is more important than positivity is giving the reality that life can be hard. God is still good, but life is hard. We need to let our children know that there are struggles and understand that it’s not always going to be what it might look like on social media. Life is hard, and it’s filled with hard things, and that’s not such a bad thing that it is filled with hard things. We need to explain that if we think about it, in sadness, when we experience sadness, which draws up compassion, and if a person feels fear, this can draw up bravery in a person. Anger can help someone get to a place where they do some problem-solving. Everyone likes happiness; happy is excellent; no one’s going to argue that, but our kids will live a full life, so we want to ensure that we equip them for that full life.

Another key is that fear and worry can kick into anxiety, and sadness can kick into depression, which can kick into suicidal ideation. So, watch if our kids are feeling sad; if it’s temporary, that’s typical, temporary if they can still express joy in their grief and sadness. For example,  let’s say that maybe a grandparent has passed away; if they can still recall a funny story and laugh and enjoy things still, even during the grief, if you can see that, what you know is your child is experiencing sadness, not depression. But if sadness continues for some time, you need help. Some studies say even if there’s no joy, if it’s only sadness for a few weeks, get help; others say a little longer. But I would say you know your child and watch for when help needs to come.

The last key today is if we feel like our child may be sad or depressed and possibly have suicidal thoughts treat it now. Look at it like your child has some illness or physical sickness; you would seek help whether your child wanted it or not, right? Even if they didn’t want help and broke their leg, you would still go to the doctor to get their legs set. So we move forward as responsible parents; we don’t wait for them to say, Yes, I’m ready for help. We get help. We go to the doctor, we go to the pediatrician, and we find a therapist.

I pray that these informative and moving conversations on suicide and suicidal thoughts in our children have touched you and have helped bring light to the dark topic.

Listen to the Warfare Parenting Podcast today and don’ forget to visit LoriWildenberg.com and find many more resources.

Another resource: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, is 1- 800-273-Talk


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Insights on Fathering a Prodigal

I wanted to bring you this story because sometimes we don’t hear enough from the father’s point of view when facing a defiant and self-destructive child. Tom Yohe is the real deal, and he has fought hell for the victory with his daughter. Today he shares some powerful insights and feelings about being a father of a prodigal. I asked him, “What would you be the dynamic difference between the father and mother? Do you find that the struggle is similar? Or do you find that you deal with it differently? Please share your personal experience.

Tom and his wife get the hell parents to face when struggling with a prodigal child. Tom shares, “Well, Dena, my wife and I have been in full-time ministry. For most of our married life, we met in college at Christian University. We were in the pastoral ministry for several years. Then we transitioned, went overseas for a one-year stint with Campus Crusade. Then they asked us to come on staff after the end of that year. So we served with them. We were in mission work. Our dream was to serve overseas, but things were going south with our daughter. We first noticed it when she was age 12; she cut herself back then, you know, we just never heard of that as their concept. I had no way to process that. Then as she got into high school, she began experimenting, using drugs and alcohol, and things just went, went south from there. Her high school senior year was a mess. She barely graduated, but it went on for years after that. Again, we were around many full-time ministries, people who weren’t going through this. It was very isolating. We would tell our friends who were looking at universities for their children and tell us, “Oh, my son’s going into there, my daughter is going here.” We were looking for treatment centers, and that’s not a big conversation you want to have with everybody. It was tough, very isolating and a lot of guilt involved. Some people who were friends didn’t want to hang out with us anymore. I guess I could understand it. Maybe they didn’t want their daughters or their children around our daughter. I would probably want the same thing. But why did they isolate from us? Why did they push us aside? So it was, it was hurtful.

Tom shared, “Well, fathers do deal with it differently. A tendency, I think, for many men is to throw themselves into work because they see themselves as a provider. A lot of these things are costly. You know, if you get into treatment centers and counselors and what have you, then it’s easy to say, okay, this is how I’m dealing with it, I’m going to be the provider. I’m going to make sure that the counseling happens or their treatment centers, we have insurance, or what have you. But that’s also their way of escaping and disengaging from what’s happening. And often, the wife, you know, is left to deal with a lot of heat daily. So we were fortunate we were in ministry together, and we were with an organization that gave us leverage or freedom. We explained that we were walking through something hard right now. Then they go, okay, take some time. 

We would pass through. We would take hours, literally, up in our bedroom, trying to get on the same page when we were trying to deal with our daughter because we realized it didn’t take long, that if she found a weakness, she would exploit it. If we weren’t on the same page, we weren’t united, and what was coming out of our mouths, she would be quick to exploit that to get the attention off herself and onto us and get us arguing with each other.

There was a moment when God spoke to me and directed me to the book of Genesis. As I read through that, I looked at that and said, Oh, my gosh, God is a hurting parent. God created Adam and Eve and put them in a perfect environment. They didn’t have all the stuff going on and gave them one boundary and couldn’t keep it. Then they had children, and their son murdered their other son. I mean, it’s practical’s from the beginning. Yes. So I realized that God is a practical parent, and He knows my pain. He understands my fears and every emotion that I’m walking in. I can come to God with that because He’s walking with me. I mean, think about how many rebellious kids he has right now. It wasn’t too long in Genesis that He was ready to wipe out Europe because the hearts of men were so wicked. He said, “You know, I regret I’m grieving over what’s happening here.” Well, that’s the father grieving over what his children are doing. So thankfully, God didn’t wipe us out and had a plan to give us His Son.

There were some points of clarity as we battled the devil over our daughter. Some of these moments were more powerful than others. I would say that the one was when I had to rush to the hospital. Renee had cut herself up so deeply that they had to take her to the hospital. We had gone through so many other things with her, and I didn’t know what to do. God just spoke to me. He said, Tom, “I love you unconditionally. Tell Renee you love her unconditionally.” So when I went into the hospital room, she was so full of guilt and fear. She goes, “Oh, Daddy, I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry.” I said, Renee, it’s okay. I said, look, nothing that you’ve done or has been done to you will ever change our love for you. We will love you unconditionally, and we will always love you. That was a powerful moment in our relationship. It wasn’t the end of her prodigal journey. But our relationship was there. And when she got into horrible things, she called us. She called for help. And that was very, very important.

Another important point is to learn about boundaries. We also need to learn how to set appropriate boundaries, and that’s part of it. You know, the verse, I think it’s in Hebrews; “God disciplines those whom He loves.” You know, discipline is not unloving. It’s sometimes the most loving thing we can do. When we set some clear boundaries, Dena and I spent time we figured out what those boundaries were, we figured out which ones we could enforce because I could set boundaries, but none of us were going to enforce them. What good is it? And we explain those boundaries to Renee. She knew them, and she understood them. So there was a very, very hard, hard reality that came to us one evening when she violated the boundary and had to experience the consequences. But in her writing and reflecting, she told us that was one of the most loving things we did, and she doesn’t resent us for it. She appreciated it. As a young boy, my father worked a lot. And he wasn’t in the home a lot. I knew they loved me and stuff like that, but I missed having him around. And I wasn’t the best of kids either. But, you know, if they didn’t discipline me, I began to wonder if they loved me or not because I think love does speak words of discipline at times.

Well, one of the things I got from this journey, fathering a prodigal, was gained a sense of humility. You know, it’s easy to be proud Out of everything’s working right, and you think, Hey, I’ve got this. But there was a deep sense of humility and added compassion for people walking through painful journeys. Unconditional love, you know, is the verse that God manifested His love for us and that while we were sinners, Christ died for us. Christ didn’t wait for us to clean up our act, didn’t wait for us to earn or deserve it. He gave it unconditionally, without concern about our response or lack of. So I think that love needs to continue to be there for our children; just as Christ loved us, we need to love them. Then I believe not to isolate, please, please don’t isolate. That’s the tactic of the enemy. God wants us in the community. That’s why He created the body of Christ, the church, and we’re not perfect as the body. But that’s the place to be supportive, other people who understand and will walk alongside you without criticism or judgment.

About Tom:

Tom and his wife, Dena, have spent the latter part of their lives with a ministry called. “Hope for Hurting Parents. They offer all kinds of resources and small groups. They have helped so many parents that have prodigal children. Please visit their site today.

Here is the link to the ministry: https://hopeforhurtingparents.com/
Here is the link for his book: https://amzn.to/3xR5T9K

Tom has also just released his amazing book, Moments of Clarity: Wisdom from the Father of a Prodigal. In this book, he shares the moments of clarity and wisdom from God he received. At the same time, his family endured the tumultuous journey through the mental illness, addiction, and self-harming actions of a rebellious teenage daughter. Each chapter contains hard-fought moments of clarity that are like refreshing therapy sessions, providing a much-needed deluge of grace.

I pray that this helped us all see deeper into a father’s heart facing a prodigal child for many years. Tom gave us insight into his parent’s broken hearts as he watched his daughter head down a destructive path in life. Yet, God’s redemptive hand moved through him and his daughter, and victory was found.

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Unsuccessful Suicide Story

Unsuccessful suicide attempts are a tough topic to talk about. We have been discussing suicide and suicidal thoughts in these last blogs and Warfare Parenting Podcast. Today, Lori Wildenberg shares her personal experience with her daughter’s unsuccessful suicide attempt.

This is Lori’s story.

Lori shared, “You know this, this is a tough topic. In the last episode, we talked about some of the signs demonstrating that perhaps the depression is getting deeper and could lead to suicide. And my daughter had some of those signs when she was younger, in middle school; she wrestled with an eating disorder. By the time she went to college, I had thought she was emotionally healthy. She started well. Then there was a lot of pressure with the particular major that she was in. It was a high-pressure major. So she had all the stress of the workload of college. She was also working a little bit, earning some extra spending money. She had some friendships that were getting somewhat difficult. All of those stressors started to keep piling on and piling on. 

Then the feelings of I would say she was feeling alone, or even feeling worthless, or perhaps feeling like she wasn’t ever really loved. All of which, I mean, if she were to stop and think about it, but your brain isn’t right when you’re going through these things, right? So she was wrestling with a lot of things and it started to get too much. When I would call her, at first, I could hear the sadness in her voice. Later, I found out that she was crying like every night. I didn’t know this. When we talked, she was four hours away, so it wasn’t like we were close. But we still had the phone, and I could hear the sadness in her voice. 

But, then I have to tell you, the scariest thing was hearing her voice void of emotion when I talked to her. That scared me. It was like my daughter would be like, I don’t care if a good thing happened to me, it doesn’t matter if a bad thing happens to me, I don’t feel anything. This was incredibly frightening. Well, after one of those calls, I got pretty scared, and I made a plan to go and see her, and I was going the next day. 

Well, the night before she attempted to take her life, she ended up telling me later. But I didn’t know that she had an unsuccessful attempt at the time. If you read my book, you’ll learn a little bit more about that. But I’d instead not get into that part of it. It is in the book because my daughter describes her own experience, and I leave that up to her. The book’s title is “Messy Hope Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression or Suicidal Ideation”. 

So when she came home with me, then the next thing was we went to the doctor. She got on a prescription to help stabilize some of the things that were going on with her and then made a plan for doing some therapy. All of those things help. Yet I think that one of the things that helped the most was graduation which was maybe six months from then. She ended up graduating from college. Then many of those triggers, the things triggering her, fell away, and she continued to get healthier and healthier, and everybody’s different. But I do know everybody needs help, and as parents, we can be a tool to provide more hope and help for our kids. God can use us in that

About two years, maybe a year and a half after her attempt, she wrote a blog about her experience and depression. She wrote it to help somebody else who may be feeling like she was, about 18 months to two years ago. The blog was a tough one to read. I almost felt like I was going to be sick, you know, to hear the things that she was thinking and the way that she even thought about herself. It was very troubling. But when I read her blog, God started to impress upon me that her blog was so important for young people to read. 

But there was another side that parents needed to be equipped. Because young people today are struggling with so many mental health things, one in four will end up with a mental health diagnosis. This is what God had; part of her healing journey was writing her blog and participating in writing messy hope with me. I have to say; I wasn’t sure about God’s plan. I was really scared about his plan because I thought, Lord, what if this because I’m asking her these questions, and she’s drawing up these past emotions? What if this puts her back into that black hole with all the layers? Right? What if this starts to heap dirt on top of her again? You know, I’m afraid to do this. And I kept checking in with her; how are you doing? Are you okay? 

Finally, at one point, when I asked her, because I was really scared, and I asked her if she was alright, she went, “You know, it’s really hard, mom, for me to relate to that person that I was then to who I am today.” Wow, there’s the victory. 

There is much more for you in this week’s Warfare parenting Podcast. Please listen here today.

You can also buy Lori’s book, which shares many applications, tools, and more. For more information, please visit her website here.

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Keys to Prevent Suicide

Today we begin the three-part series on suicidal thoughts and suicide. Lori Wildenberg is here with me for the next three episodes, helping us understand suicide and suicidal thoughts in a greater capacity. In our next episode, Lori has her own personal story that we will hear and read about. She is the author of “Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression, or Suicidal Ideation.” I know you will want to hear and be a part of the upcoming episodes on suicide. 

Today I  pray that you find more insight and everything you need to know about this complicated subject,  suicide, and suicidal thoughts. 

The frightening stats of the increase in suicide are hard to digest. Here are some up-to-date statistics that will help us understand more:

Teenage girl’s hospital admissions that have attempted suicide are up 50%

The second leading cause of death in this age group

Young men are more successful in taking their lives in suicide attempts

In Colorado alone, the number one cause of death in teenagers and young adults is suicide

The essential part of today’s insights is whether we know if our teen or young adult may be considering suicide or have suicidal thoughts? We can look for these warning signs:

Psychological disorders like depression or bipolar

Drug and alcohol abuse

Agitated, hopeless, irritable, worthless feelings, family history, physical or sexual abuse

Some situational influences can increase suicidal thoughts if a relationship breakup with a girlfriend or boyfriend—a family who has recently gone through a divorce. We need to look deep into circumstances that could increase our teens’ anxiety, sadness, or emotional state.

One of the most significant warning signs to look for is making irrational decisions that make no sense—for example, deciding not to go back to school. If you ask yourself why they are acting like this and making this decision, an extremely irrational decision, this is a significant warning sign.

My friend Lori shares, “My youngest daughter was at college and suffered and struggled with depression. And she called me up and said that she would pack up all her stuff. She would move home, and she would commute to school, okay, commuting to school. The school was four hours away. All right now, she would have an eight-hour commute. That didn’t make any sense. She had quit her job just because it appeared to be on a whim. She impulsively quit her job, packed up her stuff, and made impulsive decisions. 

In the suicidal series episode 2, Lori shares her personal story of how her daughter had an unsuccessful suicide attempt and how they found healing.

Since Covid suicides have gone up 30%, these are frightening statistics for parents of teens and young adults. There is one essential key to knowing what your teen or young adult may be thinking.

The key to knowing our teens and young adults are free of suicidal thoughts is to ask them! And we’ve got to be asking our kids, how are you doing and specifically, How are you doing today? Ask them specifically so that they know that you’re ready for that answer. Ask them I’d like to pray for you. How can I pray? That’s another thing that could lead to more insight into their feelings, but we’ve got to start asking our kids the tough, awful question, “Have you considered taking your life?” That’s a horrible question to ask. But if you’re thinking about that, chances are pretty good that your child has already thought about it. And then they know that you’re ready to have that conversation with them, and they don’t have to protect you.

I have a passion for that question. Because if we don’t ask it, we may regret it because we feel that maybe they are thinking of it. And so I encourage everybody, if you believe your child, your teen young adult, may be thinking about suicide, ask them how you are doing today and ask the most challenging question, “Have you considered taking your life?”

I pray that this helps you as a parent today of teens and young adults learning all about suicidal thoughts.

The most important takeaway is staying connected to our teens and young adults, specifically our prodigal children. These keys will help us see warning signs and better communicate with them. 

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3 Steps That Can Help YOU Prevent and Survive Cancer

Have you had cancer or does anyone you love suffer from cancer? Today, Ginny Brant shares her powerful healing story and ways that we can prevent and survive cancer starting today!

Ginny shares, “I was on a mission to not get cancer because there was so much of it in my family. And it was four months after my mother died of breast cancer that providentially, as my sister would say, I found a lump in my breast. I had just done the Cooper River Bridge run with my husband. I walked briskly, but the point is, at the end of it that night, my ring got caught in my nighty in the middle of the night, and that’s when I found the lump. So I immediately looked into it, but I wasn’t too concerned about it. I had been here once before, and they weren’t anything to worry about. But I went to the doctor, and the first bad news was, yeah, this is cancer. And then the next week, more test results came back. They told me it’s not just cancer. It’s aggressive. And then, the third week after the results of the MRI came back; they gave me the news that brought me to my knees. They said it’s not only aggressive; it appears to be in your lymph nodes and different places in your body. Wow. I don’t understand. Because I went for a second opinion in Chicago of Cancer Treatment Centers of America. And the first thing that doctors went through with me was the risk factors for this aggressive breast cancer. There were eight of them. I didn’t have one of them. So since my mother had died from breast cancer, they did extensive genetic testing that showed nothing.”

This started Ginny’s search for how she could’ve prevented cancer and how she would beat cancer!

Here are her top three revelations that she shares will help prevent and increase your successful survival of cancer:

Emotions:

Your emotions can draw illness. These unresolved emotions, things like in my case for 15 years, I took care of ailing parents, a father with dementia, and a mother with breast cancer. The point is, we were in a grief cycle we couldn’t get out of. I’ve discovered that long-term grief, long-term anger, or any long-term negative emotion can suppress your immune system. So 15 years of not being able to stop grief put my body in a position where it couldn’t heal normally and regenerate. It suppressed the immune system that God had given me.

Toxins and heavy metals:

My doctor tested me, and I had heavy metals because of the chemo. I was introduced to the infrared sauna company. I thought they would test heavy metals, which I already knew, and how we keep track of my progress. They pointed me to 15 out of 20 chemicals in that chemical profile, that red high zone in my body, and many of them work endocrine disrupting hormones, or what we call Xeno estrogens that mimic estrogen in the body. I had an estrogen-based and aggressive cancer. So when I showed the results to my doctors at the cancer center, they said, ” Oh, this is definitely one of the causes of your cancer.

Healthy Gut:

Having a healthy gut lining protects you from cancer. It protects you from brain disease, heart disease, and even severe symptoms of COVID 19. The research is clear that 70 to 80% of your immune cells are in that gut lining. And so we must keep it nourished adequately with fruits and vegetables and plants and fermented foods.

Ginny shared that she was very intentional. She was very different. She said, “You know, I just asked God to guide me as I was doing my research, and you know, like He clearly pulled back the curtain on cancer for me, and I never would know everything that was going on in my body, but I saw the main things that would give me something to work with so that I could respond well after receiving the worst chemo known to mankind. I could restore my body back to full health. And why is that? Because God created our bodies to heal on an everyday basis. It is a miracle, and when we start to remove all the things that are suppressing that, then our body can get back to healing and regenerating as God created it to do.”

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Book:  Unleash Your God-Given Healing: eight Steps to Prevent and Survive Cancer

You don’t want to miss Ginny’s complete story and steps. She shares her powerful testimony and tips with us this week. You can listen to her right here on the Livin’ Lively with Laine Podcast

 

 

 

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Fear and panic don’t have to be your story!

Can we have victory over anxiety? Can you overcome panic attacks? Our world is so busy! We can have the peace of God in the craziness when we learn how to overcome fear and panic by partnering with God.

At 25 years old, Christy Boulware was so successful, but in 2011 she had her first panic attack. Her life snowballed from there- paralysis, vision issues, and she had to rush to the emergency room in the middle of the night. All the tests show that ALL is fine- NOTHING was wrong with her. She felt like she was dying. The doctor said to Christy, “You have anxiety.”

Christy was shocked! Christy had everything: money, success, children, and happy marriage.

But her anxiety got worst, and she had back-to-back panic attacks. She had to have her mom help take care of her children because she couldn’t get out of the bedroom. She then had suicidal thoughts. 

The fact is that anxiety will manifest. Stress and anxiety can physically show up: shortness of breath, GI tract can be impacted, the tension in your body, and maybe your chest tightens. There will be constant obsessive thoughts. Then, spiritually we are attacked through fear.

Christy shares that your nervous breakdown can be a nervous breakthrough!

From her own experiences, Christy shows how you, too, can find victory over panic attacks and anxiety.

The two lifesaving keys to overcoming anxiety are surrender and prayer! Christy invites you to do as she did and untie your superwoman cape. No one is capable of doing it all! No matter how highly successful we are, we must pause and allow God to take control of our lives, cry out and surrender to God. 

Christy shares that she was a fan and not a follower of God but committed to going deeper with God. This is where her healing began.

She shares that we need to pray for God to help us and line up Christian helpers, doctors, counselors, and friends. These influences will help give us strength and encourage us to take faithful steps.

We can’t get too comfortable in our pain. We need to take steps to gain victory!

God wants to help. He wants us to have victory! Fear is mentioned over 360 times in the Bible. We will face it, but we don’t have to stay in it and overcome it through the power of Jesus.

Here are a few keys to help us move out of anxiety into God’s healing arms:

  1. Surrender- allow God to be our ALL. We need to surrender everything to God so that He can lift us and heal us.
  2. Prayer- Pray- do not be anxious about anything. In the scripture, we get a prescription straight from God. Philippians 4:6-7, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” 

The prescription is to mix these ingredients:

-Pray and ask God for help

-Be thankful; don’t grumble and complain

– Find His goodness and grace in everything

-Ask Him to help you where you need help, get specific with your needs- then the peace of God will fill our hearts and minds

  1. Find a Christian counselor who helps you see it as God sees it, mixing theory and truth.

Remember, there is no shame in anxiety or panic attacks. Don’t stay stuck, and please take the steps needed to find the healing Christy shares that helped her find victory! Also, don’t feel like a failure if you have a setback. You will see success as you keep seeking God’s healing touch.

Christy Boulware Website: https://www.fearlesswomenstl.com/connect-christy


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You Can Beat Anorexia a Hope-Building Story

Tina Yeager is a licensed mental health professional with personal experience with anorexia. Today I will be sharing her journey of overcoming anorexia. Tina shares her hope-building story on her victory in overcoming anorexia, tips, and ways to help navigate healing.

It started with middle school age junior high school. She didn’t fit in and wasn’t popular. Someone suggested that I might be a little chunky and need to be thinner to be included. Precise details on food, and I thought if I could be smaller or thinner. Maybe they would let me even be in the background.

She became very restricted with what she ate. This lasted about eight years. She never reached the worst stage where you lose your period. In middle school, she starved herself so severely that her elbow was the most significant part of her arm. Her hips stuck out, so only bones appeared. Her skeleton poked through her clothes. 

She ate under 1000 calories a day. Then she over-exercised. She would exercise in intense heat to sweat more pounds off. Her parents began to see her lose interest in food. So she began to hide it very well.

She would take laxatives to lose weight. She would work during meal times to not have to eat with the family. She became very good at hiding her disorder. She even hid rat poison in her bedroom. Instead of getting better, she got better at hiding her anorexia.

She said these are thoughts I was thinking, “I am never going to be thin enough, and I am never going to be good enough,” throughout the entire eight years of her battle. Her self-image was not based on God’s lens but through her filter of not being good enough or thin enough.

Tina got worse and worse. Her non-eating and exercise led to terrible consequences. Desperate to be thin at all cost!

But God had a plan of healing. Tina became pregnant, and it saved her from anorexia! 

The darts of the anorexia disorder attacked Tina, but God unexpectedly delivered her! After she found out she would have a baby, she began to take care of the baby inside of her and started to eat healthily. She focused on her baby!

Tina then became immersed in God because something beyond her was vital. She began to focus on God first. She began to look at her life as a mother and a parent. She studied God’s word to give her statements of value and worth.

It takes a process. It takes time to heal. This is not a one and done with this eating disorder mindset. This takes time to unravel. Here are some tips to overcome anorexia:

  1. Get Christian counseling offering spiritual help as well physical help expediting healing 
  2. Every story is different, so all of them can be worked through with prayer, believing God will deliver and heal anorexia
  3. Address medical issues along with counseling to prevent long-term medical problems

Tina shares that one of the essential tips she can give us is to have deep conversations with your teen or young adult if you suspect anorexia. If we don’t try to address the issue, they can continue hiding it. This is the best way to start the journey of healing. 


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What to do when your dreams are shattered?

What do you do when a door closes? When your dreams die? Amy Joob went from triathlete to model, then to an author. Amy Joob shares how she was made “new” after her dreams crashed.

God sometimes allows things for a season, and then when a door shuts, another one opens. BUT in the transition, you grieve, and you feel lost. But God won’t leave you there!

God brings you to places where you never dreamed you could go!

Amy shares she had a troubled childhood and had to learn how to fight through it. She had to learn and survive in difficult times. She shares that struggles helped her know how to start over.

In 2009 Amy had a second baby with special needs and had many medical conditions – again, all of her dreams were put on hold while she took care of him and her other child. But she did finally write her book, Unstuck Step into the New: A 40 Day Prayer Journal. 

Amy shares in this Christian devotional how an intimate prayer life and Christian principles have helped her process and overcome her son’s rare genetic disorder diagnosis, financial challenges, and unexpected career path changes. She will encourage you to embrace the difficulties by pressing into God through praying, seeking support, and finding community. Amy will help you outline the steps to get unstuck and move forward into God’s destiny for your life. Amy likes to share personal stories and inspire her readers to find and fulfill their purpose. She believes “If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.”

How do we start over and start new? Here are a few steps that we can take to get unstuck and dream again:

  1. Know that God has a plan, He will never forget you, and that no matter how much the world may be shaking your world, God is right there with you!
  2. Seek God first and allow Him to show you the next right step because He will lead you.
  3. Wait on God His timing is perfect.
  4. Don’t give up on God because He won’t fail you.
  5. Let go of the old, surrender to God, and stay in God’s presence and in God’s word for your strength!

Keep moving forward and you will move closer to your destiny and your dreams!

Podcast Details: LISTEN HERE!

Guest: Amy Joob

Website: AmyJoob.com

Book:  Unstuck Step into the New: A 40 Day Prayer Journal


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What You Need to Know About Anorexia

Many teens and young adults struggle with eating disorders. In this Anorexia series, we will dig deep into the conversation about anorexia, read a powerful testimony of overcoming anorexia, and discover resources to help heal anorexia. Tina Yeager, LMHC, an award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and life coach, is on all three episodes of the Warfare Parenting Podcast. You can listen here. Please be sure and comment and leave your thoughts on the Warfare Parenting Blog!

What is Anorexia?

Anorexia is an eating disorder that affects mainly girls. The average girl develops anorexia at age sixteen to seventeen. Teen girls between the ages of thirteen and nineteen and young women in their early twenties are at most risk. Eighty-five percent of anorexics have onset of the disorder between thirteen and eighteen.

What influences teenagers at risk for anorexia?

Stress and significant life change factor into the disorder risk. Dysfunctional family environments and peer pressure play a role. Negative messages from culture and media can also impact and influence the disorder.

What are signs that our teen or young adult may have anorexia?

There are several psychological signs, and they can include: perfectionism. Obsessive thinking, difficulty expressing emotions and feelings, history of trauma or abuse, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and lack of healthy coping strategies.

Some physical signs of anorexia are: they don’t eat enough, are underweight, obsessed with gaining weight, hard to sleep at night, dizzy, fainting, hair falling out, period stops, constipation, and self-esteem are based on the way their body looks.

If you suspect your teen or young adult may have anorexia, please open up the conversation loving and non-confrontational. Our third blog will have many resources on how to find help if you think your teen or young adult may have anorexia. After opening the conversation, schedule a check-up with the doctor to rule out any other underlying factors. Then the doctor can help you find options for treatment.


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FREE “IS LIFE HURTING TOO MUCH” E-BOOK: https://LaineLawsonCraft.ac-page.com/hurting

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How to heal from addict to pastor?

Going from an addict to a pastor has a powerful story that is told by Adam Comer. This is his story.

“I grew up in East Tennessee, the Knoxville area, the city of Knoxville, and I had what I would call the American dream, I did not have trauma or drama in my life. And that is important to mention, because doing what I’ve done for the last decade, a lot of times that is what drives some people to addictions to numb that pain to escape that pain with major trauma and drama. And a lot of times it’s from the people that are supposed to love them the most and protect them. 

Listen to the podcast interview here.

 

But that wasn’t my story.

I played sports, I was popular have two loving parents still do a roof over my head. They were educators dad was a basketball coach. And so I didn’t have anything in my past that would drive me to addiction.

I went to college in Chattanooga. And honestly, that was when some of my major rebellion would start. And looking back I can tell people to and maybe someone watching this can relate- There was something in my life that I was trying to fill. Even in school like high school, I remember I needed people to like me. And so I was popular with every kind of clicks- you know high school is kind of clicky unfortunately, there’s the jocks and the whatever over here and the nerves and the preppies and so I could go around, or I could be whatever anyone needed me to be to have that acceptance. And that was a hole I was I don’t know why, but I needed that. And so I was feeling that looking back. 

But in college, I really began partying, I played basketball in high school, it was only two seniors on our team. I went and tried to walk on at UT Chattanooga, but just found partying was more important. And with women and I don’t know, I just begin to live a life that was chaos. And it felt like it was filling something although I was making that gap bigger in my life, I was losing something. Around that time, Hurricane Katrina hit, I moved down to New Orleans and I injured my back and I was introduced to some pretty powerful prescription pain medication. And that was the moment when I tasted that for the first time this is what I’ve been missing my whole life. That’s what I thought. And I’m in kind of like in Genesis, the enemy convinced two people that had everything that they needed something else and so it’s an interesting trick, but I tasted that and then that just began Chase. 

Again, I grew up in church and then just had a good life. But that began a search and I got to keep continuing to have that feeling. I have to continue to fill that hole that it’s missing. I moved back home to Knoxville didn’t go back to school. And I kind of began to court my my high school sweetheart, I don’t think people say court anymore in 2022. But they could cuz I just did. But she was a preacher’s kid, a PK and like the innocent kind, knew nothing about the life I was living. She thought I was living good. I was going to church and things like that. And she wanted to believe me. She wanted to believe the lies. She was a good woman she knew me. So we ended up getting married. 

And then I was overtime. You know, the Bible says within the dark comes into the life and I just couldn’t hide it money. I was just constantly having to spend money and buy these drugs buy these drugs. I would be making X number of dollars a week on a paycheck or every two weeks and she thought I was making maybe 30% of that and the rest was going to drugs and began to pawn things and begin to steal things to eventually you know, she thought I was having an affair on her. In essence I was with drugs, the same feelings that she had from me always being attention on something else my phone when I was secretive, so the same feelings and affair brings is what she was feeling. And so she confronted me went to the rehabs went to different things, the 12 steps, the NA the AA, and she was so supportive every time she could be there, she was there as a loving wife. 

And then I would get out and I would just relapse AND relapse AND relapse to where she was done. The only woman that I ever loved was done, we separated. At that point, there was nowhere for me to live, I couldn’t even lay my head I’ve stolen from everyone that would allow me to stay on their couch like friends I’ve known for years. Even finally, it came to my parents. And like I said, they’re educators, they would allow me to sleep in their house. But at six in the morning, they knock on the door and say, Adam, you have to get out, because they’re going to work that used to drive me and make me so mad. But it’s like if they did not I’d steal from them. And so just chaos in my life. 

And I remember Googling something, and it was is there such thing as Christian addiction recovery, I guess training a child in the way they should go. And I just knew that this methodology that I was doing, wasn’t working for me. And that’s when a place called S2L recovery popped up. And I was in middle Tennessee about three hours away. And I’m given kind of the PG, PG 13 version just to be safe here. 

But because there’s a lot of death and decay that took place in the before the time that I’m talking about coming up to now a lot of pain to get into that that would take a longer time than we have. But it also I don’t know that some audience members need to hear that. 

And yeah, so you could imagine, I mean, low points in my life. I remember saying out loud to myself in a room to myself talking, which is interesting, But I remember saying there will never be another day in your life that you don’t take a drug. I thought to myself, I needed this just to get up just to have a meeting just to go to lunch just to talk on the phone. It owned me. Right I was a slave to it. Something this big. I did whatever it said, if you go back and listen to the last episode, we talked about desire. I did everything this desire told me to and it didn’t matter who I hurt. I don’t know, I just became a wicked master manipulator that only wanted to serve me as god never thought that that’s what I did, though. I was worshipping idols that, you know, never thought that but that’s what it is. 

I definitely think especially doing what I’ve done the last decade, the men come to us and the darkest seasons of their life. There’s a lot of spiritual warfare that comes with that. So I don’t play around with that. I absolutely believe that. Yeah, I think there’s oppression and possession. I think when it comes to addiction, I think it’s a mixed bag. I think it’s our desires that we’re seeking. But I think the temptation is there, I think situations can come. I don’t want to speak on it too much in the aspect of details. Definitely know that I have seen some very dark things in the ministry that I’m in now. 

True is that kind of how it worked for you listen to this justification that I had. I have a dear friend and by God’s grace, he’s a strong believer, and we are close friends today. In fact, we actually speak together about this was a professional baseball player. He’s my age. Now he doesn’t play professional baseball. But I mean, he was in the major leagues. And so he was one of the ones that would allow me to stay with him. Every morning he had a it was in the offseason. So he was in Knoxville, he just working out and I would stay with him. And in the morning, you’d have Bible study, but I began to steal from him. And my justification was he’d never know. He’s rich, right? He’s a major league baseball player. He’s never gonna know. I mean, this was 1000s of dollars. And so yeah, that kind of justification of how ludicrous someone’s not going to know that there’s money missing from their bank account. Oh, no, it’s odd. You don’t even think that way. 

And I mean, even the desire, think about in the garden like you were talking about? How many have had everything perfect unity with God, before sin. Like that’s heaven. When we get to heaven, there’s no more sin. There’s no more pain there. No more disease, no more addiction, no more divorce, no more anything because we’re in perfect unity with God and the tool of the enemy was to convince people in perfection, that they didn’t have everything that they needed something else they needed another desire and convince them to sin. And so yeah, definitely tricks and temptations and spiritual warfare left and right. But there also is our own flesh, right idolatry I can’t blame the devil for me wanting to be wrong. He might be nice to me, he maybe did this. But I mean, man’s responsibility is also there. And that was my responsibility to choose that, yes, not doing the things that the Word says that we’ll get into, to really help with those kinds of things. 

Now I didn’t know how I was gonna get there to Middle Tennessee to this place called us to a recovery. Christian rehab, didn’t know anything about it. But God did. I landed in Middle Tennessee, and it was immediately different. And we talked about this in the first episode. All of my experience at secular rehab was saying that once I was an addict, always an addict, or a when I came to these places of recovery, I had to raise my hand and introduce myself as an addict, or an alcoholic. And when I came to St. Well, in Middle Tennessee, it was like, don’t you dare say that. If you’re in Christ, you’re a bloodstained child of the kingdom. There’s hope there immediate, and you talked about hope. I don’t know if it was this episode or less. But immediately, immediately, hope began to be born in my life. And that spurred something in me and I wanted to learn more about who this God was who He was and what did He say this about his children. 

So I wanted to learn how to become one of His children, but also when I am what does He say about me? And what does He say about himself. And so I just begin to dive into his word and, and trust the leaders that God put in my life. And He began to grow me and grow me and grow me. And it became easier and easier to not fall into the tricks of the enemy. And also, I mean, like you said, hope spurns things that begin to restore my marriage, because she could hear my voice that was different. This is over a period of time. And so I just began to learn more about who He was, and who He said I was, to where eventually, this place I was at S2L there said, Hey, you want to do an internship. And I definitely as a leader, you know, sort of played sports and got to kind of put that into me, as to be a leader. And so I said, Yeah, I think I definitely feel like to help people. And so I’ll commit to the short term internship, but my wife’s three hours away, and God restored our marriage. So you know, I’m not going to do anything after that. Well, sure enough, after the internship, they asked me to become a full time staff member making $50 a week. Okay. And so it’s like, Hey, let me give you the church answer. I’ll pray about it. Me, and My wife will pray about it, knowing that there’s one, they couldn’t really do that. So I call my wife that, hey, I’ve committed to three days of prayer. Clearly, this isn’t an option. Your parents, my parents, any career I have is in East Tennessee three hours away. But I told him, we pray about it. Let’s pray about it. And by the way, honey, they’re gonna pay me $50 a week. So don’t move here thinking you’re gonna make money, right? And just we committed to prayer. 

On the second day of praying, my wife’s boss comes to her and says, Hey, there’s a potential promotion for you. But you’d have to be willing to move to Middle Tennessee if you want to take it. And she told me that we’re like, really? Okay. I’m hard headed, Lord. But that’s a little bit too much. I mean, I get it, it’s clear. And so I accepted the position, my wife moved to Middle Tennessee. 

And God just began to open doors and grow us as a couple. Grow me in ministry. We have two beautiful children now. We’re plugged into an amazing church and just a began to open doors inside of the ministry and to where now a decade later, the Chief Executive Officer of the very program that God called me to come into and he used to set me free from the chains of addiction. 

Primarily, when I was in the throes of addiction. It was opiates was my preferred, but at some point, I was so needing to numb life because I was so addicted and there’s so much shame of the things that I’d done. And my body physically felt addicted as at some point, it didn’t matter what it was, whatever was available now my preferred would have been opiates, but at some point it was whatever was available to numb to escape to, to not have to deal with the shame in the cycle of guilt and things that I’ve done. So yeah, it was anything and everything. Anything I can get my hands on, I mean, stolen from anyone and everyone pawn things. Just a person that no one could trust, a person that didn’t know who he was a person that was lost and almost believed the world that, you know, this is what you need, oh, my God was money, I wanted to be a millionaire. And so I’m serving that God all the while, you know, doing everything that anybody could tell me to do. 

And I was just the last person, broken, broken person that numb that brokenness and put on a facade of someone who knew what he was doing as a facade of a cocky, you know, using the natural gifts that God birthed me with the serve myself, and not care about anyone around me. 

Now I’m a pastor, a pastor guide really, that was never in the playbook. I’m supposed to be a millionaire. I’m a pastor, I have a heart for people. I care about others. This is so weird. But you know, the verse that I mean, people try to twist the verse, But Delight yourself in the Lord, He will give you the desires of your heart. And my desires are to see others set free. My desires are to see others thrive. Why is that my desire? I don’t know. But it’s because my DNA changed. It’s because I’m not serving self God. It’s because I’m not chasing the Numb anymore. And it’s because I believe that that person that I described, is dead. Yes, he’s been crucified with Christ. It’s no longer Him who lives but it’s Christ who lives in me in the life I now live, I live to him, because he died for me. And he gave himself for me. And I mean, I don’t know how else to describe other than, like, DNA change, and that shame. Now, we can bear good fruit and bad fruit. 

Well, I planted seeds in a life and I had to deal with a lot of bad fruit even after I’m redeemed and living for the Lord. But it no longer sucked me into a place of devastation, and no longer sucked me into a place of depression. Because, you know, I read that He’s with me now into the end of age. And that’s the end of the verse, the beginning of the verse, The Great Commission, but I mean, if you just take the bookends of the verse, All authority in heaven and earth has been given to me, says Jesus, all- not some. And He closes out the verse and I’m with you. To the end of Age, it’s like, okay, I’m the Spirit of God walking with me to deal with this. Now, I don’t have to roll in on myself and make myself God again. And woe is me. You did that? Adam, Woe is me. Woe is me. No, I did that. I hate that I did that I dealt with the consequences, legal, relational with my wife, financial, I had to deal with all of those consequences. But I had a really know, that that’s not who I am anymore. 

Yeah, they really do come in order when God is first. And I mean, there’s a piece that surpass in times of chaos. And it’s interesting that I could see it now on this side of things. When I see the men coming into our program, you know, a see that does that see that hopelessness on their face, and the moment they hear what I heard, there’s hope. I want to be clear, though, and I kind of was but you’re not hearing us say that you come to the Lord, you surrender your life to the Lord, then the rest of your life is rainbows and unicorns. Now, you’ll still lose people. You’ll still have people think and say things badly of you, you still have days that you feel a certain way, they’ll still be troubles. Because the word says so that’s a promise Jesus gave Oh, have trouble. Yes. But he says Take heart. I’ve overcome the world. And so I mean, it’s almost like you deal with life with the power of the Holy Spirit. And so it still hurts. You’re still paying. But it doesn’t drive you to despair. It doesn’t drive me to devastation and chaos, to be honest. Our whole deal is we’re teaching people how to suffer. Yeah, learn how to suffer and apart from God on this planet, like we talked about earlier. But separation from God is suffering. 

Thank you God for overcoming the world and for you son Jesus now I am set free from addictions and now serving as a pastor to help others find freedom, wholeness, and healing.

If you would like to connect with Adam please contact S2Lrecovery.org

 

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Do You Need Help for Anxiety and Your tweens

Many times our tweens, teens, and young adults suffer from anxiety. Sometimes we don’t know what to do. Caris Snider, an anxiety survivor herself, has written all about anxiety and now for girls’ and boys’ tweens too!

Tweens are around the age of 8 years old to 12 years old.

Older teens and young adults who face anxiety would greatly benefit from Caris’s first book, Anxiety Elephants 31 Day Devotional!

Maybe you aren’t sure if your child is suffering from anxiety. Here are some symptoms: stomach ache, headaches, fidgety, distraction during school or sports,  crying, or getting angry. These are real symptoms, and we need to dig a little deeper to help them overcome anxiety.

How do we help our children with anxiety? Here are a few suggestions: 

Open up a conversation while distracted, so they are more likely to open up.

Start conversations with specific questions about today. For example, “How was your lunch?” instead of “How was your day?” We want the most information we can get.

Discuss some of the more complex issues with your tween, teen, and young adults to prepare and not be caught off guard, giving them a firm foundation.

These keys can help you equip them for anxiety- why wait?

In Anxiety Elephants for Tweens, you get a scripture, devotion, and a stomp step to help stomp out anxiety each day. There is also a Prayer and journaling page so that they can write down their struggles or what they learned- or even draw something- or rewrite the scripture.

Once you determine that your intuition may be correct, here are a few more positive steps to help them. Admit and acknowledge they are anxious so you know that you need the next steps. If your child had asthma, you would go to a doctor and even get medicine. So first, make an appointment with your child’s doctor and make sure there is no underlying condition. Rule out any physical problems. Then make an appointment for a counselor to help guide your anxious tweens to healing. 

Connect with Caris at CarisSnider.com

Book: Anxiety Elephants for Tweens

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God are you with me in my struggle?

God are you with me in my struggle is what Misty Phillip asked God. Now she shares what her experiences were with us in today’s Livin’ Lively with Laine blog.

I experienced many struggles from an early age. And then I thought when I became a believer that somehow life was going to be so much more amazing and that I wouldn’t have struggles. And anybody who reads the Bible knows that Jesus said that in this world, we will have tribulation, not we might have tribulation. And part of the Believers Walk is going through trials and tribulations and it is those trials and tribulations that conform us to the image of Christ and make us more like him when we surrender and submit our lives to Him.

It’s hard, though, isn’t it? I mean, in the midst of the struggle, I mean, it is hard to go, Okay, God, you’re curating something beautiful out of this. And that is why it is a struggle because I think any of us with a faith root system, we know God is there. But sometimes we don’t feel like it, do we? Yeah, it can definitely be a challenge. But for me, I know that when I was going through some really serious struggles as a young wife and a mother, the only thing that got me through those struggles was my lifeline to the Word of God. And it was those times that God really poured into me that then I was able to pour that back out on the pages of the struggle is real, but so is God.

One particular season that I was referencing, as a new mom, I was on bed rest with my youngest son for almost my entire pregnancy. I had two boys that I was homeschooling, one of which had grandmal seizures as a baby and profound special needs. At the same time, we lived next door to my husband’s parents, who both had brain tumors. So in that time, my husband lost his job. It was literally like one major thing after another. And that is just in a short couple of years span. It was exhausting. And I was like God, why not question him? Like, why is this happening? But what can I do? 

You know, just being in His word, just searching for truth. And that’s where I learned that we all have struggles, right? Sometimes they’re small struggles, sometimes they’re big struggles, your struggles are going to be different than my struggles. You know, other struggles I experienced in the past, I’ve lost babies had a stillborn child with trisomy 18, experienced a lot of death and grief in my family. I was in rebellion as a young person and did all the wrong things before.

God radically changed my life. 

But in seasons I was truly walking in darkness, and God radically pulled me out of that. So all of those struggles, you may not have my struggles but at some level, we all struggle, whether it’s tension within our family, a job loss, or the death of a loved one. And so how we navigate those trials is what I think is so important. 

I think it’s okay for us to take our questions to God, and to ask him why we just can’t get stuck in the why we have to surrender and bow our knees to him and pick up that cross and follow Him. And it’s not always easy. But when we do that we can rest under his sovereign hand. You know, and as you’re talking, we see these are just amazing stories of true struggles. You know, I feel struggles are kind of universal, and they all are equal. I mean, what may be a struggle for you might necessarily be a greater struggle for someone else. I mean, struggles or struggles is all I’m getting to. I don’t think we need to have opinions or measurements of it. If someone’s hurting then that’s my measurement. If you’re hurting if you’re in grief or if you’re struggling over something that you could not prevent that, man, those are tough times. 

And you do wonder like you said, why not? Why God, but why? Why? What am I going to do on it? God? Tell us a little bit how your devotion or your Bible study came about through these struggles. Yeah. So when my oldest son went to college, I had homeschooled my boys and thought I was just going to homeschool my boys and then be a grandma. And I realized very quickly, if I didn’t find something else to do with my time that I would drive my boys absolutely crazy. 

And so I began praying and asking God and seeking Him for the next step in my life. And when my son was in college, he had signed up for a bike race. It’s called the Ms. 150. It goes from Houston to Austin. And he was working full time and going to school full time, and he wasn’t getting those rides in. And so as a good mom, I was like, come on, son. I’ll go for a ride with you. 

Well, long story short, I wasn’t wearing a helmet that day. And I had a terrible bike accident that I snapped both of my arms after over the end on my bike, and I didn’t have that helmet. So I put my arms out, you know, to break my fall. And for the next year, I couldn’t do anything as my arms healed. 

And God had me sit. And over that time, He just spoke his love over me. And then I realized, I’m the older woman, and that I needed to take the lessons that God was sharing with me, and share them with others. So I went to my husband. And I said, I really feel like I’m called to write a Bible study. And he said, I think you’re right. And I said, I think I should write it about overcoming. And he said, Maybe that’s your life story you absolutely do. 

So the first thing I did was I got into the Greek. And I started to look at every reference of the word overcome in the Bible. And really, in one sitting, God gave me the structure of the Bible study. We went to church the next day, and the pastor was preaching from Joshua, about being strong and courageous. And my family knew the music that day was Susan Ashton, who was a contemporary Christian singer in the 90s, who, when I first got saved, that’s all I listened to. And she has the song about the Spirit moving us that we can’t go from one place to the other, unless the spirit moves us. And my family knew in that moment that God was anointing me to write this study, I can’t even explain it to you. But they all looked at me. And they knew.

I’m so glad, because it took me three years to write that study. And things don’t always work out the way we think or in the timing that we think that they are. But it did launch at number one on Amazon. And I have won a Golden scroll award for it. And God has truly just blessed my meager efforts of taking people from Genesis to Revelation, and showing them that God has not left us alone that he has promises to his overcomers.

Here are a couple of keys for you today that would to help transform you today. 

  1. So the first thing is you have to be in the Word, you have to be in the word so that the word is it gets inside of you so that you can use that word as a weapon. That’s what God says it’s the sword of the Spirit. And so every time Jesus was tempted, He spoke back to Satan with the Word of God, if we don’t have that word of God in us, we can’t use it as a weapon. So that’s first and foremost, we have to be in the Word. 
  2. And then second of all, Praise is a weapon. You know, when I am struggling, I crank my praise music up, I go for a walk, get out in God’s creation. And then I would just say a heart of gratitude. Like every day that we wake up is a gift from God. And so if we can just thank him even in the midst of our difficult situation. I think that he can work in ways when our heart is open and receptive and we have a heart have gratitude because we have to keep our eyes on eternity, knowing that this is a temporary situation that we have here on earth, and that if we can keep our eyes fixed on eternity, everything that we go through here will pale in comparison to the amazing glory that we will receive. And heaven. 
  3. One of the best features in my study is that you can have the daily affirmations. And so I basically instead of having them, you know, say something worldly about themselves, like I’m empowered, and I can do these things. It’s really about taking the Scripture and applying the scripture to your life. So I’ll use that example. I can do all things not I can do all things. But I can do all things with the strength of Christ. And so it’s just taking the scriptures and really claiming those promises. And if you were in the struggle, I would just encourage you to grab that studying some friends and go through it together. And it’s powerful. I love to say healing is better, we do it together. And I think that is so powerful. And I’m going to also touch really quickly on the praise music very dear to my heart, I love to sing literally out my backyard many days with my Pandora way. You know, there’s something about when I’m down or upset, and I get some praise, music going. Literally the joy of the Lord just touches me. And I like to say mystery, and I’m sure you would do that. Anytime we get in the presence of God, whether it’s his word, whether in prayer or praise, we don’t leave the same, do we? That’s right. We never leave the same. The word is alive and active and being in his presence. 

Just a touch from Jesus can radically change everything.

 

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Addictions – Everything We Need to Know

Everything we need to know about addictions and the power of them too. We could spend hours about addictions and the power of them the strongholds. And really, you know, we were just discussing off record about how addictions, the world tells us one thing, and God tells us another. So today we’re going to talk about addictions. We’re going to talk about how we can get through life without them.

Adam Comer is here in the blog too this is so awesome. Listen, your heart. I mean, your destiny, your purpose is that you help people with addictions Adam.

Adam replies, “Amen. Yeah, that’s right. I didn’t ever think that that was what I would do when I grew up. But absolutely, that is the path and the calling that God’s placed on my life for sure.”

There’s something about experiencing healing or experiencing the hand of God like Adam has versus reading about it. 

What are your thoughts about addictions? 

Adam responds, “Oh, goodness, well, I mean, to kind of tease what we might be talking about next blog. But I really believe that addiction is the forgotten pandemic, or epidemic if you want just to say this country, but it’s a pandemic. And it’s not a lot of attention, I would say the newest data that we have, and it’s amazing that it came out this quickly. But from May of 2020 to May of 2021 100,000 people died of drug overdose. That is astronomical. That’s more casualties than the entire Vietnam War era, which was 17 years. I could go on and on about that. But that’s just drug overdose, that doesn’t include the deaths that come from alcohol, that doesn’t include the devastation that comes from pornography, that doesn’t include. I mean, that doesn’t include any of the chaos, just drug overdose. And to be honest, probably 80% of that is opioid opiate-related. And so it is a problem. And as you hinted to in your intro, the solution that we’re given the solution that’s been the standard for the last 50-60 years, has been almost behavior modification almost outside-in approach, but it also would entangles into your identity, it’s so tied to your identity, you have to say, Hello, my name is Adam, and I’m an addict before I’m allowed to speak or engage in a meeting, it’s taught that in the 12 steps, that you’re always going to be this, and that is a hopeless situation.”

 If I’m always going to be something if I’m doomed to just remission of this thing- Man, there’s no hope there. 

But that’s not what the Word of God says. The Word of God says that who the son sets free is free. Indeed, it says if you’ve been crucified with Christ, it’s no longer I who live but it’s Christ who lives in me. And he says, you’re a saint if you’re in him, that you are a bloodstained child of the kingdom, how dare I say anything different than what he says? How should I call, and I’ll just say this, and it is a big deal, and I don’t want to get you on a soapbox. Identity is a piece that is such a big deal. Because even basic psychology 101 If I call a little girl ugly her whole life, she’s going to grow up and think she’s ugly. And so if I call myself something, my sin or my past, or if I tie my whole identity to that, I mean, you could just imagine the devastation that comes. 

When God says that if you’re in Him, you’re a saint. And I’m here. I mean, obviously, the Spirit of God is omnipresent. He’s everywhere. And I can just imagine because I went to 1000s of meetings. After being born again, I could just imagine myself calling myself that, man. No, I paid for that. That’s been buried with my death, burial, and resurrection. It’s what baptism is all about. And it’s like we’re missing the mark. And so I think I answered your question, but I kind of want passionate about this, as you can tell, speaking from a different point of view about identity.”

When I was going through this with my three children, and boy, did we go through a lot, whether it was alcohol, drugs, whatever, my kids kept saying to me, I’m just doing what everybody else is doing. I’m talking about identity. You know, these kids, they don’t want to be isolated. They don’t want to be made fun of or bullied. So many times they surrender to these behaviors that become addictions because they’re just doing what everybody else is doing. Do you agree with that? 

Adam replied, “Yeah, I think. I mean, you’re talking about like, in like trying to drugs or trying? Yeah, yes. Yeah, there’s definitely peer pressure. I heard a story, a national story the other day, I want to say last week, maybe two weeks ago, and I can’t remember what state I want to say Florida. But it was just a high school kid playing sports. The report is he’s never done drugs before. But he went with a group of guys. And he went, and they were handing out what looked like prescription medication, probably pain prescription medication. And he took it and took one drug one time, his whole life. It was a fake pill. It was a fentanyl pill that was made to look like a Percocet or something like that. And it killed him.

And so I think peer pressure, I definitely think any category, not just addiction, but any kind of lure that the world has that shiny lure that when you bite into it, it really hooks you and grabs you. I think peer pressure and the flesh, wanting to fit in wanting to go with the flow. I definitely think that plays an issue in addiction for sure.”

Yes and you know, addictions can be diseases. For instance, you can have generational curses, what we say, or you can have a parent or grandparents that have an alcoholic gene that you possibly unbeknownst to you might have inherited. Again, what I’m getting to is addictions are everywhere, Adam, and we cannot stay in that identity as you said, as we go through recovery. And we are set free. We have got to renew our minds and our new identity. We want to talk about that later, for sure. Back to the fentanyl I have been reading lots about this, Adam, what is happening all over the country in the United States. We’re getting it from China, we’re getting it from Mexico, what is happening, it is not just Percocet’s it’s Xanax, like, all of these things look like you are taking a prescription medication and these kids don’t know it’s not. And many kids, athletes all around the country, Homecoming queens, kids that literally they’re not addicts, they literally have never had a lifestyle of habits of drugs and alcohol. They do it one time and they’re dropping dead Adam, they’re dropping dead.

Adam shares, “It’s so dangerous. I mean, you’ve probably seen it or your audience has seen that this picture where it takes this much heroin to kill someone, it takes this much something but then there’s just a few specks of dust of the fentanyl to kill a grown man.”

Yes. And so if you’re a young woman, you know, 15-16 years old it says a grain of sand. Do you know what the size of a grain of sand is? That can be deadly. That is a war. I believe that is a war against our children to have a child not even has a second chance.

Adam said, “I want to say that there was a seizure of fentanyl not too long ago that it was enough to kill every American in the country.”

Incredible. So today we’re talking about addictions. Sometimes we confuse addictions with really just choosing self-destructive behaviors. Can you tell us, Adam, what do you use as a definition for addiction? 

Adam answers, “Yeah, and I’m glad you said that. I think that you mentioned disease. And I think by definition, I’m just careful with wording that because what I believe the world does when we label a disease one, it’s for-profit, to how do we treat disease in this country, with medication. And so now we have the same people who made the opioids that really sparked this massive pandemic, where it went from, I don’t want to get you into much trouble videos, the pharmaceutical companies making opioids and then all of a sudden everyone’s becoming addicted to them. And then now we’re supposed to trust the same company that makes the drug to get off the drug. And I’m seeing more and more guys coming onto our program that are trying to get off the drug that was given to them to get off of a drug. And so I’m just careful with saying it’s a disease by definition, it can be. I think, biblically, though, even the way that you describe it, there are so many other different addictions. 

I think biblically, it would be idolatry. And the aspect of not adultery, idolatry, but in the aspect of I’m exchanging the glory of God and His promises in my life to deal with things for bootleg cheap substitutes. And I think that goes for anything whether it be you’re addicted to work, you’re addicted to pleasing your children, you’re addicted to whatever it could be alcohol, drugs, porn, you name it if you’re exchanging what God says for a bootleg cheap substitute that you know ends badly you only have a history that ends badly that’s  idolatry.”

Thank you for saying that to Adam, because we don’t talk about this enough.  It’s a very unpopular view. You’ll get emails about this and so a lot Oh, yes, yes. Anything we put before God? Anything that we’d like you said substitute, feeling loved, feeling you know, peace, feeling comfort, man, you know, you can reach for that drug you can reach for the alcohol but that’s idolatry. That’s really idolatry because it’s substituting the realness of what God can be in your life and I love that with addictions, how do you deal with it? Adam? You know, we’re going to talk more about how you’re a pastor, you’ve got your own personal story. When you say to possible people that you mentor or minister to, how do you deal with them about the topic of addictions?

Adam replied, “I’ll probably repeat myself when we go into some other things. But I mean, I think in general, for me and on a baseline and not to be funny, or not to just dismiss it, but to really bring it back down to the absolute truth and absolute truth is addiction is not a surprise to God. So He must discuss this in His Word. And so someone that’s listening, and honestly, anyone that’s listening, but especially someone who’s listening who’s really battled an addiction, whether that almost to a chemical, and I’ll include pornography in that, because there is a chemical addiction attached to that that goes off in your brain, someone who’s battled a chemical addiction, the word desire is elevated, because of a desire to fulfill that feeling or whatever it could be, we would do- I did awful things, things that I never thought I would stealing, you know, and could hear the stories of kids being left in car seats because the mom went in to fulfill this desire.

So I see in Second Peter chapter one that the Bible addresses that desire. And in fact, contrary to what the world tells us, right, that you’re always going to be an addict, that you’re always this, you’re just one thought away. The Bible says that we can escape Second Peter, the corruption that’s in the world because of sinful desires. Now, that’s a microphone drop verse for someone who’s battling addiction because that desire is strong.

But the Bible said the absolute standard of truth said that we could escape this desire, and then it goes on. And it tells us how, and that’s actually the chapter that we created our curriculum from, and it’s sanctification, it’s growing in your faith. But if God says, you can escape it, that’s way different than I was taught. Yeah, Adam, you’re always going to be this once an addict, always an addict. And yet, the word of God says, you can escape the corruption that’s in the world that comes through our sinful desires. 

Wow. I mean, that’s mind-blowing. I wish I could have seen this. I wish I didn’t have to suffer in the pain and all these things and cause the chaos in my family’s life for so long. I wish I would have known this sooner.”

Wow. And you’re right in the warfare, parenting mindset right there because it’s the power of God. It’s the power of His word. It’s the hope that He is still healing and delivering people today. Right, Adam? Because He is I see it all the time, don’t you? 

Adam says, “Oh, yeah. If people would actually believe the things that they say and claim to believe, man, life would be a lot different. We’re not promised prosperity and health and all those things. But there is a peace. There is a one who walks with us there is I mean, look at the heroes of our faith, they beat the mess out of them. And they left rejoicing. Well, why that is the same spirit that was at work and alive in at work in them is at work in us. And I’m telling you, if people would believe the things that things they say they believe in, dive in. And I’m not shaming people, I’m almost calling people we have a saying that we feel like God is really put on us, but not S2L or Adam, but kind of the community. And it’s from the rooms of recovery comes the revival of a nation. And this nation needs revival. 

And then if I look at the heroes of our faith, it is kind of people that the Bible was clear to show their mess. Yeah. And what better of a people group that have just been in the pits of hell that have seen the devastation that has been Outcast that has been just looked at as damaged goods, that’s prime cooking for the Lord. So we have some strategy that was part of the documentary that we’re going to talk about and moving forward with that, and kind of encouraging and unbolting the church that addiction is not a surprise to God.”

Amen. And you know, one of the things I’ve learned Adam, in my studies recently is that hope is cultivated, you know, hope is something, you know, people say, oh, have hope that God can heal you hope is cultivated, and what the testimonies it says in Revelations, it’s by the blood of the Lamb, and the word of our testimony, that defeats the enemy. And you and I are in defeating the enemy. We want to win this war. We know it can be one, we’ve seen it one, and we want to help everyone in the sound of our voices today. We want to cultivate hope in your heart today that God is moving and breathing and healing. And you can renew your mind through the power within you. Like Adam says, all of these heroes of faith, they were messes, and God made a message. And that’s what we serve, isn’t it Adam, a God that comes in and truly transformed lives so much so that we want to shout it from the mountaintops? Amen. 

Adam declares, “Yes, and I mean, you’re going to hear this If you read the next blog, you’re going to hear my story. But I’ll go ahead and tell you, I don’t proclaim all of these truths that you’ve heard in this segment because I’ve read all the addiction books. Now actually, I have that common to go back to school and study and counseling and things like that. So I have done that. But the reason I speak with boldness is from the authority of God’s word. But my own testimony, as you said, like it’s too late for someone to tell me this doesn’t work. You’re in stages of my life, that you’re too late to come and try to convince me it doesn’t work because I’ve walked through it. I’ve tasted it, I know what freedom is, my DNA has literally changed and so weird to say, because not really my DNA, but the desires of my heart are now like, matched with what God wants not seeking something that’s an idol.”

Amen. And let’s we are going to get to your testimony because it is powerful. That is our next blog; Adam is going to come in. And again, it’s by his testimony. And when he talks about his testimony, and we match it and couple it with the blood of Christ, God will do it again. And again, I believe the root word of the Hebrew word of testimony is to do it again. Every time we share our testimony, God will do it again for you. Listen, I know this too Adam, God resurrected my marriage- 17 years in a dead marriage. We were on opposite ends of the house, having a book to prove it. But also I’ve tasted and seen that the Lord is good. I’ve seen my daughter healed from illness that the doctor sent her home to die modern medicine said she’s going home to die and we prayed and God brought her healing- my children all three had addictions and depression and all kinds of things the world have layered upon them. God delivered them and set them free.

Addictions can be overcome by the power of God! I pray this post brought you hope today.

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Do you need strategies for your prodigal child?

Do you need strategies for your prodigal child? Please know I am praying for you and your prodigal! I believe that you will see victory as God is moving behind the scenes on your behalf! Please keep praying and believing too!

Also, I wanted to share this news with you!

You will LOVE this new Warfare Parenting Podcast that I am hosting now.

Warfare Parenting Podcast helps parents create a battle plan with warfare strategies to win back their prodigal. Listen here.

We will talk about addictions, suicidal thoughts, unexpected pregnancies, eating disorders, and more. And while we’re going to talk about all the available parts of these topics, we will also share powerful real-life stories of the teen or young adult or the parent who fought this spiritual battle and won the war over the devil’s plans.

The Warfare Parenting Podcast welcomes you into real-life conversations with parents, counselors, pastors, doctors, and testimonies from healed prodigals. In the premier series of the Warfare Parenting podcast, we will talk about many of the challenges that face our teens and young adults and lure them into some serious struggles. Leave each episode equipped, encouraged, and full of hope!

Please listen to Warfare Parenting Podcast now.

I am here for you! Please do not hesitate to reach out to me if you need anything. Together, we will stay strong and build friendships as we fight for victory together!

I would LOVE to hear from you. Leave a comment below or email me!

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Do You Want to Know Your Spouse Better?

Do you want to know your spouse better? I sure wish I could’ve known what I know now to get along better with my husband. We were at odds for way too many years. We literally lived on opposite ends of the house for several years. It was very sad and a lot of it was that we misunderstood one another.

When my marriage was dead, and I was hopeless, I sure wished I had known about Linked for Couples. Steve and I did NOT understand each other at all! It took several years of counseling to learn about each of our personalities and how to deal with one another better!

Here are a few questions that you can ask yourself today about your marriage:

  1. Do you love your spouse but feel like you don’t understand each other?
  2. Do you long to have a deeper connection with your life’s partner?
  3. Is your marriage thriving or merely surviving?
  4. Is there conflict in your home that you would like to convert to peace?

If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, this quick guide to personalities is for you. You will want to listen in with Linda Goldfarb today on the Livin’ Lively with Laine Podcast as she shares proven strategies and quick tips to help you connect better with your spouse and positively handle real-life situations.

Go through a simple assessment, identify your personality type and the personality type of your spouse from her book, Linked for Couples, which teaches couples how to apply these simple tools to quickly improve communication and create a peaceful living environment.

For any of you who are hopeless about your marriage, please contact me.

I will send you my free full version book, Start Again From Scratch, which shares how God resurrected my own marriage miraculously. Also, I would love to pray for your marriage with you!

I am here for you. Please don’t hesitate to contact me. You can email me, call me at 1-833-PRAY-W-ME, or reply to this email, and I will pray with you. You are never alone.

I love you very much.


PSS: Did you get a chance to listen to the first episodes of my newest podcast, Warfare Parenting Podcast? Warfare Parenting is for parents of prodigal teens and young adults. Please share it with anyone who is facing this difficult challenge.

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How to use Warfare Parenting to Bring Back our Prodigal Children

In this first Warfare Parenting blog, I wanted to draw a picture of what is coming up in the new Warfare Parenting Podcast Series that follows along with this blog, and you will love it. We will battle the most pressing topics facing our teens and young adult prodigals and how we can best help them as parents. You are not alone facing the giants of addictions, depression, cutting, and more trying to destroy our prodigal. Whether or not you are the parent or a teacher or have niece’s nephews, these struggles facing our teens and young adults matter to us.

How do we help them? How do we fight better?

My three kids are now all young adults– each one of them battled with some very dark challenges: sex, drugs, alcohol, porn, depression, and more. These are issues that we have got to take seriously. When I was in the warzone with my children, I was not sure they would ever be well. As a parent of a prodigal, I would cry out to God and ask, please keep my kids alive until the age of 25. I had read so much about how the brain’s frontal lobe did not fully develop until the mid-20s, so I would pray that God would help me get them to the age of 25 when they were better equipped to make better choices!

Today they all three have overcome and are living successfully free, whole, and healed lives. 

Check out the Warfare Parenting Podcast – Laine Lawson Craft

Helping parents is a deep passion of mine. I want to support parents that are in the battle for their kids’ lives and help come alongside them to encourage, cultivate hope, give all the resources and tools to equip for the battle, and fight with you to win the victory over spiritual warfare over our teens and young adult prodigals bringing them back home!

Perhaps you have a child, like mine, who once lived in the way you’d hoped has now made bad choices. Our story begins with me sitting in my recliner on Mother’s Day, sobbing hysterically. My dreams and aspirations for all my children lay in tattered pieces. Indeed awful thoughts were circling over and over in my mind. Are my children going to survive? Live to be twenty-five years old? Will my sons end up dead, addicted, or in prison? Will my daughter find true happiness and worth? My heart was shattered into a million pieces. I didn’t know how to go on, but I knew that I somehow had to keep moving. 

I know from experience that there is nothing worse than seeing our children following the path we prayed for daily then unexpectedly having to watch them falling backward. The disappointment can be paralyzing. The children we once knew seem to have all but disappeared. Gone is the joy, laughter, trust, and hopeful future we spent so much time daydreaming about. There is a fear and dread of what might be coming next in its place.

Perhaps my stories resonate with you as a parent. If so, then it’s time to separate the behavior from the child. The angels of darkness (also known as demons) are our true enemy, not our children. It’s hard to keep this in the forefront of our minds as our children’s eyes turn cold, and we feel as though they are disconnected from the love we continually offer, but we must do. Indeed, they are not blameless in their actions, but they are also being guided by powers they are probably not even aware of.

We will mix the spiritual perspective with the therapeutic side with experts from various fields weighing in on the struggles that prodigal teens and young adults are facing.

We’ve got incredible expert guests with real-life experiences with these struggles themselves sharing for our premiere season. You can listen or watch these powerful interviews on my YouTube channel

  • We will be talking to Adam Comer all about addictions, his powerful testimony over drugs- 
  • Tina Yeager, a licensed counselor all about anorexia and her victory over the eating disorder and unexpected pregnancies and how to love and support these young mothers and dads
  • Lori Wildenberg, certified family counselor about Suicide and suicidal thoughts and how her own daughter committed Suicide but was miraculously unsuccessful 
  • Dena Yohe, ministry leader, is all about cutting and what it means and how to heal from it as she shares her life-transforming story about her own daughter’s healing journey.

And more life-transforming and hope-filled episodes are coming!

Listen to the first Warefare Parenting Podcast episode!

This is a passion and a call on my life to help in every way that I can other parents who are fighting hell over their prodigal teens and young adults. In each episode, there will be frank and honest confessions, transparent stories, and life-changing applications that offer sound spiritual solutions to help maneuver this battle as we war emotionally, physically, psychologically, and spiritually for our prodigals!

Does this sound familiar? It’s another new day with another sleepless night because our child didn’t make it home. Our stomachs are upset, and our nerves are shot. Emotions are at an all-time high, and fear has overcome us. Of course, our trust with our prodigal is broken again. We have no idea how it could ever be rebuilt. Instinctively, we know that it is time to trust God yet again. But how do we continue to do that over and over?

You see my heart has been broken into a million pieces by my prodigal children way too many times, but now I can share the hope and inspiration and the tools and applications to help you find victory for your children too!

Parenting is hard- and there is NOT one perfect parent- The only perfect Father that exists is our heavenly Father- God Himself, the creator of all-the Father of us and the Father of our children too! Even God, the perfect Father, had two children, Adam and Eve, who disobeyed and made self-destructing choices- when we truly understand this, and then we realize that God has a plan for all of us, and He loves us extravagantly even when we sin and run from Him – He never quits pursuing us or loving us!

Give yourselves some grace- I’m breathing in God’s grace right now—NONE ZERO NADA No one is a perfect parent with perfect kids.

But together, we can walk this battle out, fighting for all of our children, especially our prodigal teens and young adults, and win the spiritual war!

AND What I can tell you is that a lot of people asked me how did all three of your children find themselves and victory – each episode will reveal more ways to understand and implement so that you can find more information- applications- tools- encouragement, and know that you are not alone in this battle. Together we will win the spiritual war over our teens and young adults so that they can live free, whole, and healed.

Thank YOU for reading this today- I want to hear from you. I want to be here to support you too! Please text- Hi Laine to 55444 that’s H I L A I N E to 5544, and we can connect! I want you to be a part of the conversation too! I want to hear your struggles and your powerful stories of victory too!

I need your help, too- please subscribe to this podcast – I don’t want you to miss a single episode, and please share this podcast with anyone in a battle with a teen or young adult prodigal.

So glad you are here, and together we can win this spiritual war and be part of the warfare parenting community!

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Does God Speak to Me?

does god speak to me?

Does God speak to me? Did God speak through animals in the Bible? These are some great questions that we will have fun addressing today!

Let’s have some fun and see how God moves in ways we never knew He could! Today we learn that God talked through a donkey! That’s right- a donkey.

Have you ever heard that this was in the Bible? I had never heard it!

Here is the scripture reference:

WOW! If God speaks through a donkey, He will undoubtedly talk through to us!


Here are a few ways we can hear God speak:

  1. Be still and unplug from the noisy world so that we can listen to Him speak.
  2. Open up our expectation to the possibility that God will speak.
  3. Get your Bible to start reading His word and see if you read something that speaks right to your heart.
  4. Think through the past few weeks, and did someone like a friend, family member, pastor, or neighbor say something that made you feel affirmed or understood? That might be God speaking through them to you!
  5. Make it a point every day to spend some time with God praying and reading His word, and I know He will speak to you!

Susan K. Stewart shares how God used her raising donkeys to use them to tell others about God. Listen to the Livin’ Lively with Laine Podcast as Susan shares this funny and powerful story. Also, you can check out her devotion; Donkey Devos Listen when God Speaks.

Isn’t it great to know that God is the same God yesterday, today, and tomorrow a God that doesn’t change? God is still speaking to us! Now, all we have to do is to get still in a quiet place, read His word, communicate with Him through prayer, and listen to others for affirming or revelation words that touch our hearts.

Please reply to this blog here or in the comments below and let me know your stories of how God speaks to you too!

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When the Worst Happens Unexpectedly What Do You Do?

When the Worst Happens
Today’s inspiration is helpful because we often don’t know when we get bad news or something terrible happens unexpectedly. What do we do when the worst happens?
Tricia Roos shares her extraordinary story about when the doctors told her that the baby she was carrying would not live. Three months pregnant and afraid, she began a journey against the doctor’s advice. She resolves to have her child. The ending is the same, but the story changes everything.
She has walked out with blind trust and showed us that hardships could end in hope. What do you do when our wishes change?
When the Worst Happens

Tricia shares some real-life applications to help us in the hardships of life:

  1. God separated day from the night so that we could have rest. Do all that you can to rest.
  2. Replenish yourself for the next day.
  3. Learn to live without planning so that your trust in God grows.
  4. Learn to give it to God, everything, every day, and rest in Him.
  5. Try to avoid the “what ifs” to keep anxiety away.
  6. Pursue this mindset every day; God has got you, so don’t worry so you can rest and figure it out later.
  7. When it is out of your control, let go and live in the moment.
  8. Lean into your trusted friends and be a friend to others.

Listen to Tricia’s story right now.

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Tricia shares the journey of how she held and loved the daughter who wasn’t supposed to live. In six days of a brief and remarkable life, Annabelle Roos rewrote the medical chapter on a chromosomal condition called Trisomy 18—giving life to a story that galvanized a large high school, a big city, readers of When Wishes Change, and audiences nationally. You can visit her website too and purchase her book When Wishes Change.
I am here for you. Please don’t hesitate to contact me. You can email me, call me at 1-833-PRAY-W-ME, or reply to this email, and I will pray with you. You are never alone.
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How To Let God Be Enough | Break Free From Inadequacy

Break Free from Your Performance Prison

Can you relate? Do you feel inadequate or insecure? Do you struggle with feeling like you have to perform for God’s approval? Have you prayed prayers that you feel like God did not answer?

Find out how to know that God is enough and loves you extravagantly and how you can break free from the performance prison!
Here are some critical nuggets on how you can let God be enough and find freedom:
  1. Realize today you can’t be everything to everybody.
  2. Know in your heart that you can’t do it all, so hand it over to God and allow Him to move through you in His strength and capacity.
  3. Don’t let the devil’s lies ruin your life. Allow God to bring healing to these lies.
  4. Don’t listen to the world’s answers; dig into God’s words to find His answers.
  5. Trust God that He can set us free in His love and pursuit of us!
  6. God promises us His presence, and He will be with us so that we are never alone.
  7. God sees the ending of our story, and nothing will thwart His plans for you!
  8. Know that there is not one thing that can make God love you more or one thing that can make God love you less.
You can hear and learn so much more about allowing God to be enough, so please listen to my latest Livin’ Lively with Laine podcast with Erica Wiggenhorn.

More Free Resources on Letting God Be Enough

Erica has FREE e-books and devotionals on her website, so get your FREE resources here.
If you have any questions or want to talk about this, please contact me. You can email me, call me at 1-833-PRAY-W-ME, or reply to this email, and I will pray with you. Please know God loves YOU right where you are right now!
Send me your thoughts or stories about letting God be enough. I would love to hear them.
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Let It Go and Let God Do It!

“Unless the Lord builds the house, They labor in vain who build it; Unless the Lord guards the city, The watchman stays awake in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, To sit up late, To eat the bread of sorrows; For so He gives His beloved sleep.” ~Psalm 127:1-2 (NKJV)

Good Morning! I have been thinking on this scripture for over a week and I could not wait to share it with you today. I kept saying it over and over again – and each time I did I gained more confidence. I pray that this short inspirational thought builds your faith today, too!

Every one of us has a calling on our life. Some of us are living it out and others are still searching for God to show them exactly what they should do for His Kingdom. Others of you don’t even realize that God is using YOU right where you are today to impact someone. But the first thought today is this– let God lead you and build your life centered around Him!!! It is working in vain or walking through life in vain if you do not let God build your life!

We must allow God to not only lead our every move but to guard us and take care of our every need. When we are completely aligned in God’s word, in His ways, and surrendered to His will we can only live blessed by Him! If we allow ourselves to rely on our own efforts, continue to live anxious and fearful, then we will never gain true peace.

My challenge this week is: if you are trying to plan your life, make life happen through your own efforts, or continuously worrying over your life then you will never be free. I urge you today to LET GO and LET GOD move through you! Leave your will, your burdens, and your plans at the altar today and give them to Jesus right now! I promise if you will let them go then God will give you more peace and happiness than you could ever dream or imagine! Today let it all go and give your heart and life to God and watch Him move in every area of your life! You will gain peace and sleep like never before!

I love and pray for each of you! Livin’ Lively, Laine

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How To Trust God When Facing the Storms of Life?

Habakkuk 3:17-19 (NLT)

Even though the fig trees have no blossoms,

and there are no grapes on the vines;

even though the olive crop fails,

and the fields lie empty and barren;

even though the flocks die in the fields,

and the cattle barns are empty,

yet I will rejoice in the Lord!

I will be joyful in the God of my salvation!

The Sovereign Lord is my strength!

He makes me as surefooted as a deer,

able to tread upon the heights

Good Monday Morning! I hope you are all well and dry! Here in Destin, Florida we have just endured another hurricane! The rains and winds have been unbelievable but we were so blessed not to have any significant damage! As I was searching my heart on what to share with you today, I knew we had to talk about the storms of life. How do we trust God when our lives are faced with hurricanes: troubled relationships, financial woes, sickness, and so much more? Today’s encouragement will lead us to a greater trust in God.

In the scripture above Habakkuk describes a very dark picture. There is death and lack everywhere. Basically he is describing one whose future looks empty, their today looks barren, and they feel like they have nothing to count on or fall back on. Could this be you today? Are you facing such a storm in your life that your dreams, your finances, and people in your lives seem dead? The good news today is that we can find joy, strength, and trust in God on the worst day of our lives!

The scriptures then say, “Yet I will rejoice in the Lord.” What? How do you rejoice in the Lord when you are facing the hurricanes of life? I can share from my own personal brokenness that in my worst days I can always thank God for saving me! I thank God for loving me when I am at my own personal worst! I thank God that He is my Heavenly Father and that I know He will never leave me or forsake me. I ultimately remind myself that God loves me so much that He gave His only Son, Jesus, to redeem and rescue me!

When we are able to be thankful and rejoice in the Lord– it will always bring you strength! God will become your focus and not your circumstances! God will start helping you move forward with hope and a greater trust in Him. God will start planting your heart and feet solid into who HE is and who you are to Him! Then as the scripture ends with, “The Sovereign Lord is my strength! He makes me as surefooted as a deer, able to tread upon the heights.” You too will find strength from God. God will help guide your path so that you too will soar high above the storm! You will have a new found level of trust in God and you will overcome through His love and power!

My challenge this week is: if you are faced with a hurricane or storms in your life then right now just thank God for loving you! Thank God for His Son Jesus and for their redeeming love, mercy, and grace. Then lean into God and allow Him to orchestrate your steps out of the darkness, pain, and storms. God will light up your pathway and give you the strength. You will be able to trust God in a greater way and you will have the power to overcome the storms!

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God Is Working Behind the Scenes for You!

In our darkest hour or in our pit of sin, many times it seems God is nowhere to be found. We can’t hear His whisper in our hearts and we certainly can’t feel His touch. But today I want to encourage us to know that God is always with us and He will never leave us alone. Matter of fact, God is always working behind the scenes for you. 

Hebrews 13:5-6 says, “Since God assured us, “I’ll never let you down, never walk off and leave you,” we can boldly quote, God is there, ready to help; I’m fearless no matter what. Who or what can get to me?”

WHOA! No matter how alone we may feel God is with us and working behind the scenes on our behalf! He will never let us down! It says right there that God will never walk off or leave us! This should encourage all of us today! No matter what we are facing or how deep into sin our lives may be God promises each of us He will never let us down. God is always working behind the scenes for us. It’s time for all of us to Enjoy Today and Own Tomorrow

If you are feeling alone or that God is far far away from you today this could really hit home for you. May we open up our hearts today and allow God to enter in. God is with us! God will never leave us in our weakness or struggles. May we dare to believe today that God is working behind the scenes and working on our behalf so that we find victory in our lives.

Email me today and let’s stand together, side by side, as we watch heaven come to earth and manifest in our lives today! I love you deeply! Please reach out to me – I love hearing from you and praying with you through our seasons of life together.