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Keys to Prevent Suicide

Today we begin the three-part series on suicidal thoughts and suicide. Lori Wildenberg is here with me for the next three episodes, helping us understand suicide and suicidal thoughts in a greater capacity. In our next episode, Lori has her own personal story that we will hear and read about. She is the author of “Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression, or Suicidal Ideation.” I know you will want to hear and be a part of the upcoming episodes on suicide. 

Today I  pray that you find more insight and everything you need to know about this complicated subject,  suicide, and suicidal thoughts. 

The frightening stats of the increase in suicide are hard to digest. Here are some up-to-date statistics that will help us understand more:

Teenage girl’s hospital admissions that have attempted suicide are up 50%

The second leading cause of death in this age group

Young men are more successful in taking their lives in suicide attempts

In Colorado alone, the number one cause of death in teenagers and young adults is suicide

The essential part of today’s insights is whether we know if our teen or young adult may be considering suicide or have suicidal thoughts? We can look for these warning signs:

Psychological disorders like depression or bipolar

Drug and alcohol abuse

Agitated, hopeless, irritable, worthless feelings, family history, physical or sexual abuse

Some situational influences can increase suicidal thoughts if a relationship breakup with a girlfriend or boyfriend—a family who has recently gone through a divorce. We need to look deep into circumstances that could increase our teens’ anxiety, sadness, or emotional state.

One of the most significant warning signs to look for is making irrational decisions that make no sense—for example, deciding not to go back to school. If you ask yourself why they are acting like this and making this decision, an extremely irrational decision, this is a significant warning sign.

My friend Lori shares, “My youngest daughter was at college and suffered and struggled with depression. And she called me up and said that she would pack up all her stuff. She would move home, and she would commute to school, okay, commuting to school. The school was four hours away. All right now, she would have an eight-hour commute. That didn’t make any sense. She had quit her job just because it appeared to be on a whim. She impulsively quit her job, packed up her stuff, and made impulsive decisions. 

In the suicidal series episode 2, Lori shares her personal story of how her daughter had an unsuccessful suicide attempt and how they found healing.

Since Covid suicides have gone up 30%, these are frightening statistics for parents of teens and young adults. There is one essential key to knowing what your teen or young adult may be thinking.

The key to knowing our teens and young adults are free of suicidal thoughts is to ask them! And we’ve got to be asking our kids, how are you doing and specifically, How are you doing today? Ask them specifically so that they know that you’re ready for that answer. Ask them I’d like to pray for you. How can I pray? That’s another thing that could lead to more insight into their feelings, but we’ve got to start asking our kids the tough, awful question, “Have you considered taking your life?” That’s a horrible question to ask. But if you’re thinking about that, chances are pretty good that your child has already thought about it. And then they know that you’re ready to have that conversation with them, and they don’t have to protect you.

I have a passion for that question. Because if we don’t ask it, we may regret it because we feel that maybe they are thinking of it. And so I encourage everybody, if you believe your child, your teen young adult, may be thinking about suicide, ask them how you are doing today and ask the most challenging question, “Have you considered taking your life?”

I pray that this helps you as a parent today of teens and young adults learning all about suicidal thoughts.

The most important takeaway is staying connected to our teens and young adults, specifically our prodigal children. These keys will help us see warning signs and better communicate with them. 

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What You Need to Know About Anorexia

Many teens and young adults struggle with eating disorders. In this Anorexia series, we will dig deep into the conversation about anorexia, read a powerful testimony of overcoming anorexia, and discover resources to help heal anorexia. Tina Yeager, LMHC, an award-winning author, speaker, podcast host, and life coach, is on all three episodes of the Warfare Parenting Podcast. You can listen here. Please be sure and comment and leave your thoughts on the Warfare Parenting Blog!

What is Anorexia?

Anorexia is an eating disorder that affects mainly girls. The average girl develops anorexia at age sixteen to seventeen. Teen girls between the ages of thirteen and nineteen and young women in their early twenties are at most risk. Eighty-five percent of anorexics have onset of the disorder between thirteen and eighteen.

What influences teenagers at risk for anorexia?

Stress and significant life change factor into the disorder risk. Dysfunctional family environments and peer pressure play a role. Negative messages from culture and media can also impact and influence the disorder.

What are signs that our teen or young adult may have anorexia?

There are several psychological signs, and they can include: perfectionism. Obsessive thinking, difficulty expressing emotions and feelings, history of trauma or abuse, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and lack of healthy coping strategies.

Some physical signs of anorexia are: they don’t eat enough, are underweight, obsessed with gaining weight, hard to sleep at night, dizzy, fainting, hair falling out, period stops, constipation, and self-esteem are based on the way their body looks.

If you suspect your teen or young adult may have anorexia, please open up the conversation loving and non-confrontational. Our third blog will have many resources on how to find help if you think your teen or young adult may have anorexia. After opening the conversation, schedule a check-up with the doctor to rule out any other underlying factors. Then the doctor can help you find options for treatment.


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Do You Need Help for Anxiety and Your tweens

Many times our tweens, teens, and young adults suffer from anxiety. Sometimes we don’t know what to do. Caris Snider, an anxiety survivor herself, has written all about anxiety and now for girls’ and boys’ tweens too!

Tweens are around the age of 8 years old to 12 years old.

Older teens and young adults who face anxiety would greatly benefit from Caris’s first book, Anxiety Elephants 31 Day Devotional!

Maybe you aren’t sure if your child is suffering from anxiety. Here are some symptoms: stomach ache, headaches, fidgety, distraction during school or sports,  crying, or getting angry. These are real symptoms, and we need to dig a little deeper to help them overcome anxiety.

How do we help our children with anxiety? Here are a few suggestions: 

Open up a conversation while distracted, so they are more likely to open up.

Start conversations with specific questions about today. For example, “How was your lunch?” instead of “How was your day?” We want the most information we can get.

Discuss some of the more complex issues with your tween, teen, and young adults to prepare and not be caught off guard, giving them a firm foundation.

These keys can help you equip them for anxiety- why wait?

In Anxiety Elephants for Tweens, you get a scripture, devotion, and a stomp step to help stomp out anxiety each day. There is also a Prayer and journaling page so that they can write down their struggles or what they learned- or even draw something- or rewrite the scripture.

Once you determine that your intuition may be correct, here are a few more positive steps to help them. Admit and acknowledge they are anxious so you know that you need the next steps. If your child had asthma, you would go to a doctor and even get medicine. So first, make an appointment with your child’s doctor and make sure there is no underlying condition. Rule out any physical problems. Then make an appointment for a counselor to help guide your anxious tweens to healing. 

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God are you with me in my struggle?

God are you with me in my struggle is what Misty Phillip asked God. Now she shares what her experiences were with us in today’s Livin’ Lively with Laine blog.

I experienced many struggles from an early age. And then I thought when I became a believer that somehow life was going to be so much more amazing and that I wouldn’t have struggles. And anybody who reads the Bible knows that Jesus said that in this world, we will have tribulation, not we might have tribulation. And part of the Believers Walk is going through trials and tribulations and it is those trials and tribulations that conform us to the image of Christ and make us more like him when we surrender and submit our lives to Him.

It’s hard, though, isn’t it? I mean, in the midst of the struggle, I mean, it is hard to go, Okay, God, you’re curating something beautiful out of this. And that is why it is a struggle because I think any of us with a faith root system, we know God is there. But sometimes we don’t feel like it, do we? Yeah, it can definitely be a challenge. But for me, I know that when I was going through some really serious struggles as a young wife and a mother, the only thing that got me through those struggles was my lifeline to the Word of God. And it was those times that God really poured into me that then I was able to pour that back out on the pages of the struggle is real, but so is God.

One particular season that I was referencing, as a new mom, I was on bed rest with my youngest son for almost my entire pregnancy. I had two boys that I was homeschooling, one of which had grandmal seizures as a baby and profound special needs. At the same time, we lived next door to my husband’s parents, who both had brain tumors. So in that time, my husband lost his job. It was literally like one major thing after another. And that is just in a short couple of years span. It was exhausting. And I was like God, why not question him? Like, why is this happening? But what can I do? 

You know, just being in His word, just searching for truth. And that’s where I learned that we all have struggles, right? Sometimes they’re small struggles, sometimes they’re big struggles, your struggles are going to be different than my struggles. You know, other struggles I experienced in the past, I’ve lost babies had a stillborn child with trisomy 18, experienced a lot of death and grief in my family. I was in rebellion as a young person and did all the wrong things before.

God radically changed my life. 

But in seasons I was truly walking in darkness, and God radically pulled me out of that. So all of those struggles, you may not have my struggles but at some level, we all struggle, whether it’s tension within our family, a job loss, or the death of a loved one. And so how we navigate those trials is what I think is so important. 

I think it’s okay for us to take our questions to God, and to ask him why we just can’t get stuck in the why we have to surrender and bow our knees to him and pick up that cross and follow Him. And it’s not always easy. But when we do that we can rest under his sovereign hand. You know, and as you’re talking, we see these are just amazing stories of true struggles. You know, I feel struggles are kind of universal, and they all are equal. I mean, what may be a struggle for you might necessarily be a greater struggle for someone else. I mean, struggles or struggles is all I’m getting to. I don’t think we need to have opinions or measurements of it. If someone’s hurting then that’s my measurement. If you’re hurting if you’re in grief or if you’re struggling over something that you could not prevent that, man, those are tough times. 

And you do wonder like you said, why not? Why God, but why? Why? What am I going to do on it? God? Tell us a little bit how your devotion or your Bible study came about through these struggles. Yeah. So when my oldest son went to college, I had homeschooled my boys and thought I was just going to homeschool my boys and then be a grandma. And I realized very quickly, if I didn’t find something else to do with my time that I would drive my boys absolutely crazy. 

And so I began praying and asking God and seeking Him for the next step in my life. And when my son was in college, he had signed up for a bike race. It’s called the Ms. 150. It goes from Houston to Austin. And he was working full time and going to school full time, and he wasn’t getting those rides in. And so as a good mom, I was like, come on, son. I’ll go for a ride with you. 

Well, long story short, I wasn’t wearing a helmet that day. And I had a terrible bike accident that I snapped both of my arms after over the end on my bike, and I didn’t have that helmet. So I put my arms out, you know, to break my fall. And for the next year, I couldn’t do anything as my arms healed. 

And God had me sit. And over that time, He just spoke his love over me. And then I realized, I’m the older woman, and that I needed to take the lessons that God was sharing with me, and share them with others. So I went to my husband. And I said, I really feel like I’m called to write a Bible study. And he said, I think you’re right. And I said, I think I should write it about overcoming. And he said, Maybe that’s your life story you absolutely do. 

So the first thing I did was I got into the Greek. And I started to look at every reference of the word overcome in the Bible. And really, in one sitting, God gave me the structure of the Bible study. We went to church the next day, and the pastor was preaching from Joshua, about being strong and courageous. And my family knew the music that day was Susan Ashton, who was a contemporary Christian singer in the 90s, who, when I first got saved, that’s all I listened to. And she has the song about the Spirit moving us that we can’t go from one place to the other, unless the spirit moves us. And my family knew in that moment that God was anointing me to write this study, I can’t even explain it to you. But they all looked at me. And they knew.

I’m so glad, because it took me three years to write that study. And things don’t always work out the way we think or in the timing that we think that they are. But it did launch at number one on Amazon. And I have won a Golden scroll award for it. And God has truly just blessed my meager efforts of taking people from Genesis to Revelation, and showing them that God has not left us alone that he has promises to his overcomers.

Here are a couple of keys for you today that would to help transform you today. 

  1. So the first thing is you have to be in the Word, you have to be in the word so that the word is it gets inside of you so that you can use that word as a weapon. That’s what God says it’s the sword of the Spirit. And so every time Jesus was tempted, He spoke back to Satan with the Word of God, if we don’t have that word of God in us, we can’t use it as a weapon. So that’s first and foremost, we have to be in the Word. 
  2. And then second of all, Praise is a weapon. You know, when I am struggling, I crank my praise music up, I go for a walk, get out in God’s creation. And then I would just say a heart of gratitude. Like every day that we wake up is a gift from God. And so if we can just thank him even in the midst of our difficult situation. I think that he can work in ways when our heart is open and receptive and we have a heart have gratitude because we have to keep our eyes on eternity, knowing that this is a temporary situation that we have here on earth, and that if we can keep our eyes fixed on eternity, everything that we go through here will pale in comparison to the amazing glory that we will receive. And heaven. 
  3. One of the best features in my study is that you can have the daily affirmations. And so I basically instead of having them, you know, say something worldly about themselves, like I’m empowered, and I can do these things. It’s really about taking the Scripture and applying the scripture to your life. So I’ll use that example. I can do all things not I can do all things. But I can do all things with the strength of Christ. And so it’s just taking the scriptures and really claiming those promises. And if you were in the struggle, I would just encourage you to grab that studying some friends and go through it together. And it’s powerful. I love to say healing is better, we do it together. And I think that is so powerful. And I’m going to also touch really quickly on the praise music very dear to my heart, I love to sing literally out my backyard many days with my Pandora way. You know, there’s something about when I’m down or upset, and I get some praise, music going. Literally the joy of the Lord just touches me. And I like to say mystery, and I’m sure you would do that. Anytime we get in the presence of God, whether it’s his word, whether in prayer or praise, we don’t leave the same, do we? That’s right. We never leave the same. The word is alive and active and being in his presence. 

Just a touch from Jesus can radically change everything.

 

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Addictions – Everything We Need to Know

Everything we need to know about addictions and the power of them too. We could spend hours about addictions and the power of them the strongholds. And really, you know, we were just discussing off record about how addictions, the world tells us one thing, and God tells us another. So today we’re going to talk about addictions. We’re going to talk about how we can get through life without them.

Adam Comer is here in the blog too this is so awesome. Listen, your heart. I mean, your destiny, your purpose is that you help people with addictions Adam.

Adam replies, “Amen. Yeah, that’s right. I didn’t ever think that that was what I would do when I grew up. But absolutely, that is the path and the calling that God’s placed on my life for sure.”

There’s something about experiencing healing or experiencing the hand of God like Adam has versus reading about it. 

What are your thoughts about addictions? 

Adam responds, “Oh, goodness, well, I mean, to kind of tease what we might be talking about next blog. But I really believe that addiction is the forgotten pandemic, or epidemic if you want just to say this country, but it’s a pandemic. And it’s not a lot of attention, I would say the newest data that we have, and it’s amazing that it came out this quickly. But from May of 2020 to May of 2021 100,000 people died of drug overdose. That is astronomical. That’s more casualties than the entire Vietnam War era, which was 17 years. I could go on and on about that. But that’s just drug overdose, that doesn’t include the deaths that come from alcohol, that doesn’t include the devastation that comes from pornography, that doesn’t include. I mean, that doesn’t include any of the chaos, just drug overdose. And to be honest, probably 80% of that is opioid opiate-related. And so it is a problem. And as you hinted to in your intro, the solution that we’re given the solution that’s been the standard for the last 50-60 years, has been almost behavior modification almost outside-in approach, but it also would entangles into your identity, it’s so tied to your identity, you have to say, Hello, my name is Adam, and I’m an addict before I’m allowed to speak or engage in a meeting, it’s taught that in the 12 steps, that you’re always going to be this, and that is a hopeless situation.”

 If I’m always going to be something if I’m doomed to just remission of this thing- Man, there’s no hope there. 

But that’s not what the Word of God says. The Word of God says that who the son sets free is free. Indeed, it says if you’ve been crucified with Christ, it’s no longer I who live but it’s Christ who lives in me. And he says, you’re a saint if you’re in him, that you are a bloodstained child of the kingdom, how dare I say anything different than what he says? How should I call, and I’ll just say this, and it is a big deal, and I don’t want to get you on a soapbox. Identity is a piece that is such a big deal. Because even basic psychology 101 If I call a little girl ugly her whole life, she’s going to grow up and think she’s ugly. And so if I call myself something, my sin or my past, or if I tie my whole identity to that, I mean, you could just imagine the devastation that comes. 

When God says that if you’re in Him, you’re a saint. And I’m here. I mean, obviously, the Spirit of God is omnipresent. He’s everywhere. And I can just imagine because I went to 1000s of meetings. After being born again, I could just imagine myself calling myself that, man. No, I paid for that. That’s been buried with my death, burial, and resurrection. It’s what baptism is all about. And it’s like we’re missing the mark. And so I think I answered your question, but I kind of want passionate about this, as you can tell, speaking from a different point of view about identity.”

When I was going through this with my three children, and boy, did we go through a lot, whether it was alcohol, drugs, whatever, my kids kept saying to me, I’m just doing what everybody else is doing. I’m talking about identity. You know, these kids, they don’t want to be isolated. They don’t want to be made fun of or bullied. So many times they surrender to these behaviors that become addictions because they’re just doing what everybody else is doing. Do you agree with that? 

Adam replied, “Yeah, I think. I mean, you’re talking about like, in like trying to drugs or trying? Yeah, yes. Yeah, there’s definitely peer pressure. I heard a story, a national story the other day, I want to say last week, maybe two weeks ago, and I can’t remember what state I want to say Florida. But it was just a high school kid playing sports. The report is he’s never done drugs before. But he went with a group of guys. And he went, and they were handing out what looked like prescription medication, probably pain prescription medication. And he took it and took one drug one time, his whole life. It was a fake pill. It was a fentanyl pill that was made to look like a Percocet or something like that. And it killed him.

And so I think peer pressure, I definitely think any category, not just addiction, but any kind of lure that the world has that shiny lure that when you bite into it, it really hooks you and grabs you. I think peer pressure and the flesh, wanting to fit in wanting to go with the flow. I definitely think that plays an issue in addiction for sure.”

Yes and you know, addictions can be diseases. For instance, you can have generational curses, what we say, or you can have a parent or grandparents that have an alcoholic gene that you possibly unbeknownst to you might have inherited. Again, what I’m getting to is addictions are everywhere, Adam, and we cannot stay in that identity as you said, as we go through recovery. And we are set free. We have got to renew our minds and our new identity. We want to talk about that later, for sure. Back to the fentanyl I have been reading lots about this, Adam, what is happening all over the country in the United States. We’re getting it from China, we’re getting it from Mexico, what is happening, it is not just Percocet’s it’s Xanax, like, all of these things look like you are taking a prescription medication and these kids don’t know it’s not. And many kids, athletes all around the country, Homecoming queens, kids that literally they’re not addicts, they literally have never had a lifestyle of habits of drugs and alcohol. They do it one time and they’re dropping dead Adam, they’re dropping dead.

Adam shares, “It’s so dangerous. I mean, you’ve probably seen it or your audience has seen that this picture where it takes this much heroin to kill someone, it takes this much something but then there’s just a few specks of dust of the fentanyl to kill a grown man.”

Yes. And so if you’re a young woman, you know, 15-16 years old it says a grain of sand. Do you know what the size of a grain of sand is? That can be deadly. That is a war. I believe that is a war against our children to have a child not even has a second chance.

Adam said, “I want to say that there was a seizure of fentanyl not too long ago that it was enough to kill every American in the country.”

Incredible. So today we’re talking about addictions. Sometimes we confuse addictions with really just choosing self-destructive behaviors. Can you tell us, Adam, what do you use as a definition for addiction? 

Adam answers, “Yeah, and I’m glad you said that. I think that you mentioned disease. And I think by definition, I’m just careful with wording that because what I believe the world does when we label a disease one, it’s for-profit, to how do we treat disease in this country, with medication. And so now we have the same people who made the opioids that really sparked this massive pandemic, where it went from, I don’t want to get you into much trouble videos, the pharmaceutical companies making opioids and then all of a sudden everyone’s becoming addicted to them. And then now we’re supposed to trust the same company that makes the drug to get off the drug. And I’m seeing more and more guys coming onto our program that are trying to get off the drug that was given to them to get off of a drug. And so I’m just careful with saying it’s a disease by definition, it can be. I think, biblically, though, even the way that you describe it, there are so many other different addictions. 

I think biblically, it would be idolatry. And the aspect of not adultery, idolatry, but in the aspect of I’m exchanging the glory of God and His promises in my life to deal with things for bootleg cheap substitutes. And I think that goes for anything whether it be you’re addicted to work, you’re addicted to pleasing your children, you’re addicted to whatever it could be alcohol, drugs, porn, you name it if you’re exchanging what God says for a bootleg cheap substitute that you know ends badly you only have a history that ends badly that’s  idolatry.”

Thank you for saying that to Adam, because we don’t talk about this enough.  It’s a very unpopular view. You’ll get emails about this and so a lot Oh, yes, yes. Anything we put before God? Anything that we’d like you said substitute, feeling loved, feeling you know, peace, feeling comfort, man, you know, you can reach for that drug you can reach for the alcohol but that’s idolatry. That’s really idolatry because it’s substituting the realness of what God can be in your life and I love that with addictions, how do you deal with it? Adam? You know, we’re going to talk more about how you’re a pastor, you’ve got your own personal story. When you say to possible people that you mentor or minister to, how do you deal with them about the topic of addictions?

Adam replied, “I’ll probably repeat myself when we go into some other things. But I mean, I think in general, for me and on a baseline and not to be funny, or not to just dismiss it, but to really bring it back down to the absolute truth and absolute truth is addiction is not a surprise to God. So He must discuss this in His Word. And so someone that’s listening, and honestly, anyone that’s listening, but especially someone who’s listening who’s really battled an addiction, whether that almost to a chemical, and I’ll include pornography in that, because there is a chemical addiction attached to that that goes off in your brain, someone who’s battled a chemical addiction, the word desire is elevated, because of a desire to fulfill that feeling or whatever it could be, we would do- I did awful things, things that I never thought I would stealing, you know, and could hear the stories of kids being left in car seats because the mom went in to fulfill this desire.

So I see in Second Peter chapter one that the Bible addresses that desire. And in fact, contrary to what the world tells us, right, that you’re always going to be an addict, that you’re always this, you’re just one thought away. The Bible says that we can escape Second Peter, the corruption that’s in the world because of sinful desires. Now, that’s a microphone drop verse for someone who’s battling addiction because that desire is strong.

But the Bible said the absolute standard of truth said that we could escape this desire, and then it goes on. And it tells us how, and that’s actually the chapter that we created our curriculum from, and it’s sanctification, it’s growing in your faith. But if God says, you can escape it, that’s way different than I was taught. Yeah, Adam, you’re always going to be this once an addict, always an addict. And yet, the word of God says, you can escape the corruption that’s in the world that comes through our sinful desires. 

Wow. I mean, that’s mind-blowing. I wish I could have seen this. I wish I didn’t have to suffer in the pain and all these things and cause the chaos in my family’s life for so long. I wish I would have known this sooner.”

Wow. And you’re right in the warfare, parenting mindset right there because it’s the power of God. It’s the power of His word. It’s the hope that He is still healing and delivering people today. Right, Adam? Because He is I see it all the time, don’t you? 

Adam says, “Oh, yeah. If people would actually believe the things that they say and claim to believe, man, life would be a lot different. We’re not promised prosperity and health and all those things. But there is a peace. There is a one who walks with us there is I mean, look at the heroes of our faith, they beat the mess out of them. And they left rejoicing. Well, why that is the same spirit that was at work and alive in at work in them is at work in us. And I’m telling you, if people would believe the things that things they say they believe in, dive in. And I’m not shaming people, I’m almost calling people we have a saying that we feel like God is really put on us, but not S2L or Adam, but kind of the community. And it’s from the rooms of recovery comes the revival of a nation. And this nation needs revival. 

And then if I look at the heroes of our faith, it is kind of people that the Bible was clear to show their mess. Yeah. And what better of a people group that have just been in the pits of hell that have seen the devastation that has been Outcast that has been just looked at as damaged goods, that’s prime cooking for the Lord. So we have some strategy that was part of the documentary that we’re going to talk about and moving forward with that, and kind of encouraging and unbolting the church that addiction is not a surprise to God.”

Amen. And you know, one of the things I’ve learned Adam, in my studies recently is that hope is cultivated, you know, hope is something, you know, people say, oh, have hope that God can heal you hope is cultivated, and what the testimonies it says in Revelations, it’s by the blood of the Lamb, and the word of our testimony, that defeats the enemy. And you and I are in defeating the enemy. We want to win this war. We know it can be one, we’ve seen it one, and we want to help everyone in the sound of our voices today. We want to cultivate hope in your heart today that God is moving and breathing and healing. And you can renew your mind through the power within you. Like Adam says, all of these heroes of faith, they were messes, and God made a message. And that’s what we serve, isn’t it Adam, a God that comes in and truly transformed lives so much so that we want to shout it from the mountaintops? Amen. 

Adam declares, “Yes, and I mean, you’re going to hear this If you read the next blog, you’re going to hear my story. But I’ll go ahead and tell you, I don’t proclaim all of these truths that you’ve heard in this segment because I’ve read all the addiction books. Now actually, I have that common to go back to school and study and counseling and things like that. So I have done that. But the reason I speak with boldness is from the authority of God’s word. But my own testimony, as you said, like it’s too late for someone to tell me this doesn’t work. You’re in stages of my life, that you’re too late to come and try to convince me it doesn’t work because I’ve walked through it. I’ve tasted it, I know what freedom is, my DNA has literally changed and so weird to say, because not really my DNA, but the desires of my heart are now like, matched with what God wants not seeking something that’s an idol.”

Amen. And let’s we are going to get to your testimony because it is powerful. That is our next blog; Adam is going to come in. And again, it’s by his testimony. And when he talks about his testimony, and we match it and couple it with the blood of Christ, God will do it again. And again, I believe the root word of the Hebrew word of testimony is to do it again. Every time we share our testimony, God will do it again for you. Listen, I know this too Adam, God resurrected my marriage- 17 years in a dead marriage. We were on opposite ends of the house, having a book to prove it. But also I’ve tasted and seen that the Lord is good. I’ve seen my daughter healed from illness that the doctor sent her home to die modern medicine said she’s going home to die and we prayed and God brought her healing- my children all three had addictions and depression and all kinds of things the world have layered upon them. God delivered them and set them free.

Addictions can be overcome by the power of God! I pray this post brought you hope today.

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Do you need strategies for your prodigal child?

Do you need strategies for your prodigal child? Please know I am praying for you and your prodigal! I believe that you will see victory as God is moving behind the scenes on your behalf! Please keep praying and believing too!

Also, I wanted to share this news with you!

You will LOVE this new Warfare Parenting Podcast that I am hosting now.

Warfare Parenting Podcast helps parents create a battle plan with warfare strategies to win back their prodigal. Listen here.

We will talk about addictions, suicidal thoughts, unexpected pregnancies, eating disorders, and more. And while we’re going to talk about all the available parts of these topics, we will also share powerful real-life stories of the teen or young adult or the parent who fought this spiritual battle and won the war over the devil’s plans.

The Warfare Parenting Podcast welcomes you into real-life conversations with parents, counselors, pastors, doctors, and testimonies from healed prodigals. In the premier series of the Warfare Parenting podcast, we will talk about many of the challenges that face our teens and young adults and lure them into some serious struggles. Leave each episode equipped, encouraged, and full of hope!

Please listen to Warfare Parenting Podcast now.

I am here for you! Please do not hesitate to reach out to me if you need anything. Together, we will stay strong and build friendships as we fight for victory together!

I would LOVE to hear from you. Leave a comment below or email me!

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Do You Want to Know Your Spouse Better?

Do you want to know your spouse better? I sure wish I could’ve known what I know now to get along better with my husband. We were at odds for way too many years. We literally lived on opposite ends of the house for several years. It was very sad and a lot of it was that we misunderstood one another.

When my marriage was dead, and I was hopeless, I sure wished I had known about Linked for Couples. Steve and I did NOT understand each other at all! It took several years of counseling to learn about each of our personalities and how to deal with one another better!

Here are a few questions that you can ask yourself today about your marriage:

  1. Do you love your spouse but feel like you don’t understand each other?
  2. Do you long to have a deeper connection with your life’s partner?
  3. Is your marriage thriving or merely surviving?
  4. Is there conflict in your home that you would like to convert to peace?

If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, this quick guide to personalities is for you. You will want to listen in with Linda Goldfarb today on the Livin’ Lively with Laine Podcast as she shares proven strategies and quick tips to help you connect better with your spouse and positively handle real-life situations.

Go through a simple assessment, identify your personality type and the personality type of your spouse from her book, Linked for Couples, which teaches couples how to apply these simple tools to quickly improve communication and create a peaceful living environment.

For any of you who are hopeless about your marriage, please contact me.

I will send you my free full version book, Start Again From Scratch, which shares how God resurrected my own marriage miraculously. Also, I would love to pray for your marriage with you!

I am here for you. Please don’t hesitate to contact me. You can email me, call me at 1-833-PRAY-W-ME, or reply to this email, and I will pray with you. You are never alone.

I love you very much.


PSS: Did you get a chance to listen to the first episodes of my newest podcast, Warfare Parenting Podcast? Warfare Parenting is for parents of prodigal teens and young adults. Please share it with anyone who is facing this difficult challenge.

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How to use Warfare Parenting to Bring Back our Prodigal Children

In this first Warfare Parenting blog, I wanted to draw a picture of what is coming up in the new Warfare Parenting Podcast Series that follows along with this blog, and you will love it. We will battle the most pressing topics facing our teens and young adult prodigals and how we can best help them as parents. You are not alone facing the giants of addictions, depression, cutting, and more trying to destroy our prodigal. Whether or not you are the parent or a teacher or have niece’s nephews, these struggles facing our teens and young adults matter to us.

How do we help them? How do we fight better?

My three kids are now all young adults– each one of them battled with some very dark challenges: sex, drugs, alcohol, porn, depression, and more. These are issues that we have got to take seriously. When I was in the warzone with my children, I was not sure they would ever be well. As a parent of a prodigal, I would cry out to God and ask, please keep my kids alive until the age of 25. I had read so much about how the brain’s frontal lobe did not fully develop until the mid-20s, so I would pray that God would help me get them to the age of 25 when they were better equipped to make better choices!

Today they all three have overcome and are living successfully free, whole, and healed lives. 

Check out the Warfare Parenting Podcast – Laine Lawson Craft

Helping parents is a deep passion of mine. I want to support parents that are in the battle for their kids’ lives and help come alongside them to encourage, cultivate hope, give all the resources and tools to equip for the battle, and fight with you to win the victory over spiritual warfare over our teens and young adult prodigals bringing them back home!

Perhaps you have a child, like mine, who once lived in the way you’d hoped has now made bad choices. Our story begins with me sitting in my recliner on Mother’s Day, sobbing hysterically. My dreams and aspirations for all my children lay in tattered pieces. Indeed awful thoughts were circling over and over in my mind. Are my children going to survive? Live to be twenty-five years old? Will my sons end up dead, addicted, or in prison? Will my daughter find true happiness and worth? My heart was shattered into a million pieces. I didn’t know how to go on, but I knew that I somehow had to keep moving. 

I know from experience that there is nothing worse than seeing our children following the path we prayed for daily then unexpectedly having to watch them falling backward. The disappointment can be paralyzing. The children we once knew seem to have all but disappeared. Gone is the joy, laughter, trust, and hopeful future we spent so much time daydreaming about. There is a fear and dread of what might be coming next in its place.

Perhaps my stories resonate with you as a parent. If so, then it’s time to separate the behavior from the child. The angels of darkness (also known as demons) are our true enemy, not our children. It’s hard to keep this in the forefront of our minds as our children’s eyes turn cold, and we feel as though they are disconnected from the love we continually offer, but we must do. Indeed, they are not blameless in their actions, but they are also being guided by powers they are probably not even aware of.

We will mix the spiritual perspective with the therapeutic side with experts from various fields weighing in on the struggles that prodigal teens and young adults are facing.

We’ve got incredible expert guests with real-life experiences with these struggles themselves sharing for our premiere season. You can listen or watch these powerful interviews on my YouTube channel

  • We will be talking to Adam Comer all about addictions, his powerful testimony over drugs- 
  • Tina Yeager, a licensed counselor all about anorexia and her victory over the eating disorder and unexpected pregnancies and how to love and support these young mothers and dads
  • Lori Wildenberg, certified family counselor about Suicide and suicidal thoughts and how her own daughter committed Suicide but was miraculously unsuccessful 
  • Dena Yohe, ministry leader, is all about cutting and what it means and how to heal from it as she shares her life-transforming story about her own daughter’s healing journey.

And more life-transforming and hope-filled episodes are coming!

Listen to the first Warefare Parenting Podcast episode!

This is a passion and a call on my life to help in every way that I can other parents who are fighting hell over their prodigal teens and young adults. In each episode, there will be frank and honest confessions, transparent stories, and life-changing applications that offer sound spiritual solutions to help maneuver this battle as we war emotionally, physically, psychologically, and spiritually for our prodigals!

Does this sound familiar? It’s another new day with another sleepless night because our child didn’t make it home. Our stomachs are upset, and our nerves are shot. Emotions are at an all-time high, and fear has overcome us. Of course, our trust with our prodigal is broken again. We have no idea how it could ever be rebuilt. Instinctively, we know that it is time to trust God yet again. But how do we continue to do that over and over?

You see my heart has been broken into a million pieces by my prodigal children way too many times, but now I can share the hope and inspiration and the tools and applications to help you find victory for your children too!

Parenting is hard- and there is NOT one perfect parent- The only perfect Father that exists is our heavenly Father- God Himself, the creator of all-the Father of us and the Father of our children too! Even God, the perfect Father, had two children, Adam and Eve, who disobeyed and made self-destructing choices- when we truly understand this, and then we realize that God has a plan for all of us, and He loves us extravagantly even when we sin and run from Him – He never quits pursuing us or loving us!

Give yourselves some grace- I’m breathing in God’s grace right now—NONE ZERO NADA No one is a perfect parent with perfect kids.

But together, we can walk this battle out, fighting for all of our children, especially our prodigal teens and young adults, and win the spiritual war!

AND What I can tell you is that a lot of people asked me how did all three of your children find themselves and victory – each episode will reveal more ways to understand and implement so that you can find more information- applications- tools- encouragement, and know that you are not alone in this battle. Together we will win the spiritual war over our teens and young adults so that they can live free, whole, and healed.

Thank YOU for reading this today- I want to hear from you. I want to be here to support you too! Please text- Hi Laine to 55444 that’s H I L A I N E to 5544, and we can connect! I want you to be a part of the conversation too! I want to hear your struggles and your powerful stories of victory too!

I need your help, too- please subscribe to this podcast – I don’t want you to miss a single episode, and please share this podcast with anyone in a battle with a teen or young adult prodigal.

So glad you are here, and together we can win this spiritual war and be part of the warfare parenting community!

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Does God Speak to Me?

does god speak to me?

Does God speak to me? Did God speak through animals in the Bible? These are some great questions that we will have fun addressing today!

Let’s have some fun and see how God moves in ways we never knew He could! Today we learn that God talked through a donkey! That’s right- a donkey.

Have you ever heard that this was in the Bible? I had never heard it!

Here is the scripture reference:

WOW! If God speaks through a donkey, He will undoubtedly talk through to us!


Here are a few ways we can hear God speak:

  1. Be still and unplug from the noisy world so that we can listen to Him speak.
  2. Open up our expectation to the possibility that God will speak.
  3. Get your Bible to start reading His word and see if you read something that speaks right to your heart.
  4. Think through the past few weeks, and did someone like a friend, family member, pastor, or neighbor say something that made you feel affirmed or understood? That might be God speaking through them to you!
  5. Make it a point every day to spend some time with God praying and reading His word, and I know He will speak to you!

Susan K. Stewart shares how God used her raising donkeys to use them to tell others about God. Listen to the Livin’ Lively with Laine Podcast as Susan shares this funny and powerful story. Also, you can check out her devotion; Donkey Devos Listen when God Speaks.

Isn’t it great to know that God is the same God yesterday, today, and tomorrow a God that doesn’t change? God is still speaking to us! Now, all we have to do is to get still in a quiet place, read His word, communicate with Him through prayer, and listen to others for affirming or revelation words that touch our hearts.

Please reply to this blog here or in the comments below and let me know your stories of how God speaks to you too!

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When the Worst Happens Unexpectedly What Do You Do?

When the Worst Happens
Today’s inspiration is helpful because we often don’t know when we get bad news or something terrible happens unexpectedly. What do we do when the worst happens?
Tricia Roos shares her extraordinary story about when the doctors told her that the baby she was carrying would not live. Three months pregnant and afraid, she began a journey against the doctor’s advice. She resolves to have her child. The ending is the same, but the story changes everything.
She has walked out with blind trust and showed us that hardships could end in hope. What do you do when our wishes change?
When the Worst Happens

Tricia shares some real-life applications to help us in the hardships of life:

  1. God separated day from the night so that we could have rest. Do all that you can to rest.
  2. Replenish yourself for the next day.
  3. Learn to live without planning so that your trust in God grows.
  4. Learn to give it to God, everything, every day, and rest in Him.
  5. Try to avoid the “what ifs” to keep anxiety away.
  6. Pursue this mindset every day; God has got you, so don’t worry so you can rest and figure it out later.
  7. When it is out of your control, let go and live in the moment.
  8. Lean into your trusted friends and be a friend to others.

Listen to Tricia’s story right now.

https://plinkhq.com/i/1516858414?to=page

Tricia shares the journey of how she held and loved the daughter who wasn’t supposed to live. In six days of a brief and remarkable life, Annabelle Roos rewrote the medical chapter on a chromosomal condition called Trisomy 18—giving life to a story that galvanized a large high school, a big city, readers of When Wishes Change, and audiences nationally. You can visit her website too and purchase her book When Wishes Change.
I am here for you. Please don’t hesitate to contact me. You can email me, call me at 1-833-PRAY-W-ME, or reply to this email, and I will pray with you. You are never alone.